Is friend's mum BU?

[Joolsy]

Last night DD and friend made 12 cakes each at friend's house. DD texted me to say friend's mum will only let her take home a few of her cakes as they were her ingredients! AIBU to think she's being stingy/greedy? They would have cost about £1 to make

If your DD wanted half then I can sort of see her point but it's a bit penny pinching - my DDs went through stages of doing a lot of baking with their friends at our house and I did think that the other fields could have contributed to the cost. They were using chocolate and naice butter and eggs. I wouldn't have minded the friends taking a bit of the baked goods home but taking half would have been cheeky.

So YANBU but I can see it from the other mums point of view a little bit

Sometimes they decide to bake something specifically to share & in that case I'm happy to supply half/most/all of the ingredients for it not to be happening here.

If it's an impromptu bake at someone elses house I don't see why we would get half.

I don't 'get' this. Isn't baking cakes at someone else's house like helping them cook? In which case why would you bring any home other than one or two? If she helped deliver kittens would she expect to bring half the littler home?

DDs friends have helped me bake stuff for various things as an "activity" - I still needed the end result for whatever I was baking it for

I send them home with enough cakes/biccies for one each for their family.. but I still need the batch

Why would a kid need 6 cupcakes? isn't one enough? The fun of baking plus 1 cupcake. I don't let my DDs eat half a batch each if I bake with just them.

But then, I only bake when I have to bake for something, so the rest'ld be earmarked for someone/something

For the cakes I think that's fair enough - the DC enjoy baking they do it for the pleasure of the baking and the results are usually consumed in a few hours!

In order to give all kids half a batch, I'ld have to do at least two batches? = double the ingredients

I just couldn't be bothered, and I only have one cupcake tray luckily none of DDs friends parents seem to be anything other than grateful at the bonus cupcake on top of an evening's playdate for their kid

how many is a few? she's at someone else's house not at a paid activity!!! someone else is entertaining your dd, they did some baking and the mum is letting her take a few home, sounds completely reasonable to me.

I think expecting to take home half/all 12 is being very grabby/greedy!

I wouldn't assume my DD was entitled to bring half the cakes home either, I'd be grateful for 'a few'.
I presume if they'd make jam you'd expect half the jars op? And certainly if my DD had been going out to lunch with a friend I would have offered to pay or sent her with money.
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hmm, interesting. I guess 12 cupcakes are quite alot.

I suppose it depends on how generous OP is with this woman's DD.

hmm, interesting. I guess 12 cupcakes are quite a lot.

CUPCAKES! I was really confused, thinking they made 24 cakes. That's a hell of a lot of cake. Cupcakes, not so much.

The op's dd wanted to bring a dozen cakes home because that's how many she made. I'm with the people who wouldn't have expected her to bring home a dozen cakes.

FWIW baking a dozen cupcakes costs me significantly more than a quid too.

If my dd texted me with this I would have responded with, 'And?'

I'd be tempted to send a faux concerned head-tilty text to the friend's mum saying you had no idea they were struggling so much financially and did she want to talk about it?

Hopefully you would resist temptation because that would be a really unpleasant text to send.

I think it is odd to expect half. Did they just send one home for each of you which is kind as they paid for the ingredients, the fuel and probably cleared up afterwards

Who say to a child no I'm sorry you can't take home what you made I paid for the ingredients can anybody be that tight.
I don't remember Mum being like that with me and my friends and I wouldn't be with my DD when she is older

I don't think it's a big issue.
Usually if dc have made cakes with friends I've sent home half.
Usually if it's been at a friend's house then they've sent home half. Sometimes they haven't and it hasn't bothered me or dc at all.

Way too much drama over cupcakes

I really really want a cupcake hot from the oven now

I've sometimes baked as a play date activity, always sent child home with "their half" as part of the fun has been for them to decorate the cakes in their chosen design. But I've halved the mixture so 6 each as that's plenty to go round and a bit cheaper for me.

OP just said cakes, not cupcakes. Cupcakes are vile would cost more to make because of all that frosting.

If dd and her friend made 12 buns here I'd give the friend half to take home. I wouldn't dream of pointing out I'd paid for the ingredients. Seems really tight.

I don't think of it as the cost, but I have done it as an activity/something to do and if we made 12 I would probably let them eat one two
each straight out of the oven. Then one for each family member to take home. Which would probably be 1/3 of the batch.

And I'm not exactly counting. But we have done a lot of baking with friends and I can't think of a single time that the kids have baked and brought stuff home at anyone else's house. Ever.

1/2. Not 1/3