I'm 7 month pregnant with DC no 2 (have a DD who's 3) and I'm struggling to keep everything together. I have a stressful job (30 hrs per week spread across 3.5 days as I have to be home with DD all day Thur and Fri pm) and uncertainty about after my maternity leave. I take care of all the bills and we are also buying a house which needs work so trying to watch every penny and save like mad. some of the work needs doing before we move in or pretty much straight away. Anyway for the last 3-4 weeks things have been building up for me, DH is leaving early on a morning and DD is a handful to get ready and out of the house so by the time I get to work I'm frazzled already. I don't have set hours but have to work so many and I'm finding more and more I'm having to work later to get these in. My DH doesn't see this as a problem because he's home in good time with leaving early but this means I'm getting up at 7 and getting home at 7. He also played cricket every Sat so was gone all day. When things came to a head 3 weeks ago my DH agreed he would pack the cricket in and spend more time at home helping me. The first weekend was great, then he worked the 2nd and I didn't feel I Could complain because it was extra money for the house. The just over a week ago he said the lads at work were going to the races this Sat and he wanted to go. My first thought was the cost, followed by feeling anxious about looking after DD on my own all weekend (figured he'd be near useless on Sun) and then angry he was getting to go out. He laid it on thick about everyone going and his brother wanted to go (they work together) and not wanting to be a witch of a wife I said no problem. Lately I'm being very tearful and snappy and know I'm not easy to live with.
I then really struggled all week because everything has been getting on top of me, so much so that DH took yesterday off work so I could have some time out. I got up this morning ironed his shirt, kissed him goodbye at 11 and he said he'd stay in touch. DD was spending some time at Grandmas during the day to make it easier for me but by 2pm after cleaning all the house and doings sums to keep a check on money I felt pretty lousy so asked mum to keep DD and went to bed. I was convinced DD would text after the races and on his way into Town (Obv had to go for more drinks after) to see how I was and whether DD was home but nothing during the 50min journey. He managed to tell me he had made town a hour after getting there, but by this time I'd been crying the best part of a hour because I felt hurt and told him I wasn't interested. Another text came a hour after that saying he would get the bus home, so I told him whatever and thanks for asking how I/his daughter were. He then didn't get the next bus and didn't text again. More tears from me and then I decided to text him with exactly what kind of day I'd had and that I wasn't sure I wanted him to come home. He walked in at 11.15 and never spoke a word. He got changed and came down for food and sat in a sep room and when I went up to bed he must have decided to sleep on sofa. Having spent the next hr in bed crying some more I decided to go for a drive to the nearest Mcds for junk food and he never even stirred while I got my keys or bag or left. Whilst I was annoyed he'd gone out when things are as they are I was more hurt he never once got in touch to see how I was or how my day was going. He also had no idea whether our DD was with me or still out. To top it off while out they bumped into BILs wife who was also in town and pictures were plastered all over Facebook which stung when I was at home, feeling alone and very pregnant. I'm stuck now for what to do because I know I'm not easy to live with but I don't feel supported and I feel no matter how hard I try to pull myself around I keep getting knocked and whilst I get DH is annoyed at me and doesn't know what to do he doesn't realise I'm annoyed at me too but also him. I don't know how many different ways I can say I'm struggling but things don't seem to change.
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kellyb220982 · 17/07/2016 02:22
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