Don't know if this is the right place to post, just feeling fed up and looking for outside perspective (even though my version will be very one sided I guess)
ExP has not paid child maintenance into my account, due yesterday...
It's a special occasion for him on Sunday and I know he is away, so could be a genuine mistake. I guess I'm concerned he is going to forget and then have no money to pay it! (Likes to splash his cash!)
I should just have the balls to ask him to pay it (haven't yet) but I'm tempted to claim via CMS now...
Reasons are - he missed the first payment (argued it was set up after pay day, even though messages were sent beforehand) we have argued over amounts, he didn't want to pay any extra for baby when born.
This is also gonna make me sound bitter but he left me for someone else half way through my pregnancy and since then, it just seems like the girls have taken a back seat...he doesn't seem to be thinking about them if he hasn't remembered to pay CM?
He also threatened to take me to court if I applied for CM, for access (even though he has bloody access and I don't think he would anyway) which is why I never bothered before.
I would prefer to sort this out between us but I'm just getting fed up with it now. At least if it was done through CMS, I would never have to discuss it with him again, even if I came out with less!
But AIBU to go down this route if he has just forgotten this time and is it going to open up a can of worms??? I don't know what to do for the best and I'm just winding myself up thinking about it!