to be really pissed off at a friend who asked me about money?

[CoolToned]

Eight years ago, friend and I needed separate bank drafts for an overseas application. The bank's policy was only those with account in the bank could purchase a bank draft. This friend asked if I could purchase the bank draft, and he paid me for it. The draft was in his name.

Our respective bank drafts were returned to us because the rules changed and we no longer qualified. I encashed mine, and told him to go to the bank and do the same.

Now eight years later, he said he found the bank draft when he was looking for his old passports. And he asked if the money was either not deducted to my account or returned to my account since the institution (not the bank, the place we were applying to) sent back the bank draft.

I got pissed because if it was returned to me (and it would not be because it is a bank draft in HIS name, and even the one in my name, I had to go to the bank to encash) I would have returned the money to him. I felt offended that he even thought it was possible that the money was returned to me and I did not give it to him.

Am I overreacting?

There has been no money incident between us prior to this issue and we have known each other for 20 years.

One could argue that you'd be dim not to understand that....

Hassled - that was exactly how I felt when he asked me if the money was deposited to my account several years ago. Because if it was, I just thought he'd be sure I'd have given it to him immediately. He asked, "I found the bank draft from ***. So the money was not deducted to your account? Was it returned to your account? I paid you for that right?"

If it was, "I found the bank draft from . Do you think I can still get the money from the bank?" or "what did you do about your returned bank draft?" it would have been different.

LassWiTheDelicateAir - that's how I felt. If ever the money was returned to me, I would've returned it to him immediately! So him thinking that that's what happened and I didn't return, well, I found that insulting.

So it seemed he did not understand the bank draft process, but why was his first assumption the money must have probably been returned to me eight years ago and I did not return it to him? It was not a simple question of what happened to the bank draft or how he could get the money back.

I think the OP right to be a bit miffed. In that situation, I would certainly feel slighted. As PPs have pointed out, there are ways to ask questions without being so thoughtless. Being generous to him, he's asking if the money was returned to the OP and she didn't notice, or meant to give it back and forgot.