My lovely friend died recently, she was under forty with your children. I am incredibly sad about it.
The funeral which was for close friends and family was yesterday. DH and I had had discussions about it and we decided he didn't need to come. Over the week we discussed plans, what the funeral involved, had I sorted childcare etc. The night before we had a discussion and tears from me about it.
Aibu in thinking he should have cared enough to know when the funeral was? He's appalling with any planning and leaves it all up to me. But at end of day yesterday he asked me when it was and got all defensive when he realised it had been and gone. It also meant when he left for work in the morning and I returned afterwards that he offered no kind words or support.
Feel very let down but realise I am grieving and sensitive.