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Original poster

daughter has cut all her hair off any advice from mums?

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WallisLady1 · 15/07/2016 23:10

hi I don't really understand the topics, or where this would go. However, could someone please give me any advice? Her hair has been destroyed. I promise, I do not just leave scissors laying around, but she managed to find a pair and just let herself go.

Not sure what to do? :(

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SolidGoldBrass · 15/07/2016 23:56

It's only hair. It will grow back. It doesn't matter what kids that age look like, anyway: they should be comfortable first and reasonably clean and that will do.

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WallisLady1 · 15/07/2016 23:57

It was past her shoulders! It's quite bad in real life. But I'm glad a hairdresser will fix it

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Idontknowwhoiam · 16/07/2016 00:00

My dd did it and ended up with a v short pixie cut.
She looked adorable and I'm kind of sad that she wants it long again and now it's past her shoulders....
Its only taken a year and her hair was keira knightly pixie cut short!

birb · 16/07/2016 00:03

I did it at about 3 to my very long, very curly hair, which was in a braid. I just cut the braid right off. Ended up with a ridiculous looking afro-bob type thing. My mum still finds the photos hilarious.

Kids do this all the time, for absolutely no reason, just because they can.

SolidGoldBrass · 16/07/2016 00:04

(My DS hated having his hair cut, so when he was three he had longish straggly hair, with an uneven fringe because I could only ever get him to sit still for one qucik snip when the fringe got really out of control. Not a big deal.)

VestalVirgin · 16/07/2016 00:13

It doesn't look so bad in the photo, but if you feel better taking her to a hairdresser, do that.

YolandiFuckinVisser · 16/07/2016 00:14

DD did this age 3 at nursery, she and 3 other girls got scissors and went off into a corner and played hairdressers. She had long, never cut in her life hair. I didn't see the others but DD came off worst according to the nursery staff. She had a kind of prodigy-style reverse Mohican, absolutely no way of saving it to make it look nice, just had to chop it all off in a vaguely asymmetric pixie. It took years for it to grow back into enough length so she could have a normal looking Bob.

Solo · 16/07/2016 00:18

My Ds was 11 and was 5 weeks away from starting secondary school he'd taken my dress making scissors and cut straight across the front up to his hair line! He was really upset with his attempts. Even at that age, the barber didn't bat an eyelid!
Dd cut a chunk of her long curly hair off to half an inch right at the front at age 6; it stuck up in front waving for a while and then when it was long enough, I cut a fringe in...grew out eventually.

You definitely aren't alone Op; look how many stories are here :) a quick tidy up by the hair dresser and all will be sorted! :)

100milesanhour · 16/07/2016 00:18

I did this when I was 4 or 5.

My mum found me in the bathroom chopping at my fringe, it wasn't even an inch long and it stuck out at my coos lick. School pictures wernt long after that aswell lol

It grew back and didn't take that long, my mum caught me before I started hacking away at the rest of my hair.

SolidGoldBrass · 16/07/2016 00:22

Please don't make a big deal of it to your DD. OK, maybe a caution against playing with scissors because she might actually hurt herself, but it's a mistake to fuss too much about hair. That stage of not caring about whether you are 'pretty' or not should be allowed to last as long as possible: toddlers shouldn't be thinking about their appearance at all.

e1y1 · 16/07/2016 00:24

I did this once, with a pair of zig-zaggy scissors fringe looked like a set of stairs lol.

Had to have a fairly short cut all round, but as PP have said, all that can be done is tidy it up and grow it back.

Anonymouses · 16/07/2016 00:24

My little madam dud a chunk of hers. It stuck up like crazy for weeks so we just gelled it down until it stayed. It's still short but not really noticable. I smile when I see it now.

FuckJeffGoldblumMan · 16/07/2016 00:27

My brother cut my sisters hair

IN HER SLEEP!

God knows where he found scissors and why he did it. He was 3 and she was 4. She cried for days about it.

Atenco · 16/07/2016 00:38

My dd did this when she was six and it actually looked quite good, oddly enough.

MooMooCowFace · 16/07/2016 00:41

I think it will be ok as it looks long enough to cut into a proper style.

LightDrizzle · 16/07/2016 00:41

KOWABUNGA indeed!

This is very common and it could be worse, don't feel bad. She's going to look cute and hairdressers will soon be able to shape it into a recognisable cut/ style.

The main things are a talk about not touching scissors and knives without a trusted adult; and making sure she doesn't feel that she looks freaky or ugly just because she has got short hair. It's a shame that girls almost all have long hair these days. Tell her it will be cool and easy to get ready over the summer holidays. Make sure the nursery is on board with not making a big deal about her new look.

My daughter cut herself a fringe at about the same age, it sloped in crenellations from about 1cm long at one side to about 4 cm long on the other. She looked a bit Boris Karloff for a while but was blissfully unaware. My mum still has a photo from then on the piano, of course she did it just before the school photo.

EveOnline2016 · 16/07/2016 00:42

Secretly I would be devastated but with every inch try not to make it a big deal.

Dd has alway had free reign in a hairdresser but imp this free expression is to far on my comfort levels.

GiddyOnZackHunt · 16/07/2016 00:44

My dd did something alarming to her hair the day before a family wedding. Three hours after I'd had her hair cut at the hairdressers. We just had to tough it out and turn her to her better side for photos!

GreatFuckability · 16/07/2016 01:04

My sister did it when she was about. A mobile hairdresser was our house perming and cutting my hair. she put the scissors down and quick as a flash my sister picked it up and hacked a huge chunk out her arse length hair.

My son cut his eyelashes off cos they were touching his glasses and annoying him. he was about 9.

kids are stupid. lol

singme · 16/07/2016 01:08

I did this. All I remember is slightly trimming the ends and my mum coming in and panicking. In reality I had cut half my hair off. We laugh about it now. It will grow back

ChocDee · 16/07/2016 01:08

I vividly remember when I cut my hair when I was about three. One of my earliest memories.

Outside on the patio, yellow scissors and a carefully placed the hair on the grill.

I even remember why I did it - I wanted to be a boy and thought that that would most definately do the trick!

I started on one side and worked my way around - obviously I wasn't then able to reach the other side of my head. But that was ok coz I was a boy now don't ya know?!

My mum was ill in bed with the flu - and I clearly remember when she came down the stairs and first saw me. The look on her face was total confusion and pissed offness because she didn't recognise me and thought my dad had let a strange kid in with a severe head tilting malfunction into the house.

Hairdressers sorted it into a rather lopsided page boy cut.

I'm a female once again and I have now got long hair.

LonestarStateOfMind · 16/07/2016 01:18

Oh no op what a shock for you. To us it doesn't look to bad but we don't know what it was like before. But yeah a hairdresser can help tidy it up.

When I was 3 and Dsis was 5 we were moving house and amidst the chaos of moving day she found a pair of scissors and decided to play a game of hairdressers, I was the client, you can imagine the rest. I had to go to an actual hairdresser and get a bowl cut the next day. Dm can laugh about it now.

Doinmummy · 16/07/2016 01:41

at cutting eyelashes.

Op ,my DD's hair looked very similar to your DD's , she hadn't cut it though, it just refused to grow evenly .

Beeziekn33ze · 16/07/2016 02:11

Solidgold. It's hair, it'll grow! That's what I told a distressed mate when her 18 year old daughter had dyed one side of her hair purple and shaved the other side off!

Another mate took her 3 year old for his first haircut, she hadn't wanted his long thick blond locks touched. Posh hairdresser specialising in small children. He freaked, tried to grab scissors, hairdresser gave up with hair cut on one side only and charged full price!! Sorted by dad taking him to cheap and cheerful walk in place in the market where there turned out to be a motor bike for kids to sit on. Job done!

Muddledupme · 16/07/2016 02:27

My son chopped my daughters French plait off on Christmas Day.she was left with hair ranging between 5 mm in length and 30 cm. It looked awful but it grew back.he managed to do this with a pair of zig zag children's safety scissors.

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