To have mistaken a baby girl for a boy

[mzS1990]

The mum seemed reaaaaally offended over a genuine mistake

My hv thought my boy was a girl because he had a red and white striped sleepsuit on and a 'pretty face'

I wasn't offended I just corrected her!

I would never assume to know what sex a strange child is -. it is more or less impossible to tell. They all look the same until toddler age, when I feel that I can guess. But only guess.

Would you people here be offended if someone asked "Is it a girl or a boy?"?
I find that's much more polite than using gender stereotypes for guessing.

DD1 used to get mistaken for a boy. It made me realise that there are ways to try to elicit the information before getting it wrong. So for an ambiguous baby I generally ask, "what's your baby's name?' And ambiguous toddle, address the toddler and ask 'what's your name?' Obviously this only helps if they have a name that is clearly male or female.

Vestal.. I don't think I'd be offended but if I don't know I just ask what their name is. Usually a good indicator unless it's Unisex and then I just say awww lovely name

Ha! X post

Little rabbit face. I asked what her little boys name is.... She replied katie with a very evil look ... Oops

I was out the other day with 9 week old DD and she was wearing a very "girly" outfit, pink and flowery. A lovely elderly lady stopped to tell me how beautiful she was then asked if she was a boy! I wasn't offended though. So, YANBU!

Don't worry - her problem, not yours. When DS was a baby it was 50-50 as to whether strangers thought he was a boy or a girl... basically because all babies just look like babies, so unless the parents are determined to put lots of markers in place (twee hairbands, "Daddy's future monster truck driving boy" t-shirts, etc) then it is toss of the coin whether someone's going to get the sex right.

Ah dear! If it was me I wouldn't have been bothered! Some people are though I guess!

YANBU. I dress my DDs in a lot of unisex stuff and people always thought DD1 (but strangely not DD2) was a boy. It didn't usually* bother me. I never corrected anyone but used to find it funny if they then asked 'his' name and then squirmed when I said its (obvious girls name).

• I say usually as I did get upset once when I'd just dressed DD up in what I thought was a really pretty dress and someone assumed she was a boy. In my defense I was very very tired and pregnant so hormonal.

Someone asked me "how old is he?" Today. Dd is 16 weeks. I didn't care-she's a baby-it doesn't matter if people think she's a boy. I find it odd that anybody would take offence tbh.

YANBU. Babies look pretty unisex don't they. My 4mo girl definately looks like either girl or boy - even more so as I am not very keen on pink or frills.

My baby girl looked so much like a boy for her first 18 months that we called her Keith.

It's hard to tell which gender some babies are when they are clothed.

my son has long hair so he is always being called a girl i laugh it off

My baby boy got called 'her' last week by the health visitor. I wasn't bothered, even though he was naked at the time!

Ifailed of course. Mine too

I wouldn't worry it's not always obvious! Both of mine were late getting hair and although I have one of each I tended to dress them fairly neutrally as very young children. They were often mistaken for the opposite sex!

My DD is almost two and still regularly gets mistaken for a boy. She doesn't have a great deal of hair!

The only time I got slightly irked was when she was wearing a nice Summer dress and a man came up to me in the street and said "you should put trousers on him you know!". I think he thought I'd taken my child out in just a t-shirt (even though the dress was down to her knees).

We didn't find out whether we were having a boy or girl when expecting DC2. DD1 was nearly 4 when we told her we were having another baby but didn't know whether it would be a boy or girl. She said, 'that's ok, we can wait until it's 2 and see if it has long or short hair.'

Clearly adults don't have the sense to wait until the child is 2 to make the same judgement. Though I suspect that neither of my DDs will have had enough hair at 2 to be consistently guessed to be girls.

I made that mistake once.

Baby was in a carrycot and it was wearing a blue gingham romper with Peter sodding Rabbit embroidered on the white yoke, was wearing a blue trimmed white cardigan and the blanket had blue ribbon around the edges.

The baby was a girl.

DD was almost bald until nearly 3 and liked trousers better than dresses. She was regularly mistaken for a boy. I didn't mind. There's nothing wrong with being a boy. It's an OK thing to be. And really, the differences between boys and girls at that age are basically pretty much nil unless you are actually looking at their genitals. I often had the 'what's his name, he's so sweet' followed by 'oh, thanks, she's called Mary' thing. I just thought it was funny, tbh. Though I was hoping she wasn't going to be bald for life because that would have been hard for her.

Dd was mistaken for a boy loads when she was little. Including more than once when she was in pink and/or a dress. Amusing, but never offensive!

One of my boys was mistaken for his brother's female cousin.

Which was perplexing as they're identical twins!

I don't get people who give a fuck tbh. Little children look like little children, they don't start really growing into their features until they have most of their teeth.

I normally just straight up ask if it's a boy or girl unless the child is dressed aggressively in pink or blue of course

I had a lady once tell me that DS2 was "such a beautiful girl". He was dressed head to foot in blue and navy, very obviously a boy. I thanked her and told her that actually he's a boy and she then asked me if I was sure . Um, I'd been changing his nappy for six months at that point, so yeah, fairly sure!

I once witnessed a mum having shit fit because someone had mistaken her baby for a girl.

She thought it was particularly disgusting as she had a blue pram so OBVIOUSLY it was a boy and how could people not know that.