To this this is ridiculous

[lastqueenofscotland]

I've posted before about this, a brief outline, like most Londoners in their twenties I live in a house share, we get on fine, we had a girl move in a few months ago who I posted about eating all my food, which was annoying. She has stopped.

However she is yet to pay her rent on time since she's been here and try's to cover it up in a charmingly ditzy way... Anyway agent is dealing with that.

she is however fucking grim. Whenever she's used the shower it's like someone has shaved a dog in there hair all over the place, and I only assume she believes in the washing up fairy. She hadn't done washing up for days and days and days and eventually it got to a stage where the kitchen stank and we share stuff so there was hardly anything left for anyone else, so the other day I politely said to her would she mind doing her washing up, shared space/shared items etc and she said no she was busy (laid on the sofa watching a Disney film) so i was a bit firmer and said she really did have to do now as the kitchen smelt, she clearly wasn't busy and it's not fair on anyone else. She got up and huffed and puffed but did it.

I got back to find her mum in our lounge who had a go at me and said I was bullying her .
She's 26!!!!
Aibu to think that was ridiculous... And that you don't leave washing up for over a week.

Bullying?! What a loon! She surely knows what her daughter's like?

You did right op, that would drive me mad.

Do the others back you up, or are you left on your own to do the confronting? If all 4 of you consistently complain to her about washing up, hairs etc, she may either pull herself together or leave. If she is perpetually tardy with her rent, however ditsy and charming, it's likely the landlord / agent will soon tire of her as well!

Tell her mum she is quite welcome to take her back to live with her any time!

F she leaves the kitchen a mess, then pick up every piece of rubbish, food and dirty dish she's left behind and put them in a big plastic/cardboard box. If she kicks off, tell her you were suck of waiting through her shit and you want to be able to use the kitchen.

Every time you do it, take a photo first, so you can print them off and hand them to her mother when she starts bitching off. Tell her you have not damaged her stuff, simply helped her by placing it all in one place. Who the fuck does she think she is, coming into your house bitching off?! You're paying rent to be there, whereas she is simply her daughter's guest. I wouldn't have anyone's guest insult me in my own home. If her mother thinks she so hard done by, then she should have let her stay at home.

Doh! Such a slow typist that I've xposted with a heap of others.

Every item would be on her bed or blocking her bedroom door. I would even resort to using paper plates to avoid washing her pots. Or even better, share the pots etc 4 ways, you and the guys then keep your items in your rooms so the skank has to wash up.

Or scrape the leftovers into a jiffy envelope (bubble-wrap lined) and post them to Mummy. With no stamp on so she has to pay to collect it.

Put all her dirty dishes in her bedroom.

Same goes for the hair in the bath/shower - pop that in a pile on her bed.

What's the betting the brat moved out because she and her mother fought over the fact that she's a lazy skank? Yet, now mummy dearest is complaining that her poor precious daughter is being bullied for doing exactly the same thing?

Put the dirty stuff in a bag and dump it on her bed. Usually works after the first time!

What a fucking crybaby. Who goes running to mummy at 26 to say the big meanie housemate asked her to clean her own filth away. I would have said to the mum "oh, so you're the reason she is the way she is then."

I'd look into getting her out. You shouldn't have to live like that. If you house share you should be more considerate than normal.

Missed Kiss post there, sorry!! Someone at my work who used to leave unwashed mugs everywhere found 6 of them in his tray. He stopped leaving them after that!

Speechless. How very dare she? And her mother!

I had this problem with a male housemate before, he very much expected me to be his mother. 1 female, 3 males. To be honest on certain levels they all expected the female to pick up the slack. I got different coloured boxes and dumped all their dirty washing up, wet clothes and general crap in them and left them at their doors to fall over. (All bedrooms were locked or they would have been placed under their covers and pillows)

They were told that the next step was throwing their crap off the balcony.