To be upset that nobody can come with me tomorrow.

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I'm having an endoscopy tomorrow, I called yesterday to book the appointment and was a offered a cancellation for tomorrow so took it as next one is at the end of August. I appreciate it is short notice and it is only to assess for hernia but aibu to be really upset that nobody is coming with me. My dh is under a lot of stress at work and taking the day of could result in a massive black mark against him, my mum has tickets booked for a show in London so is going early tomorrow and my dad is working . I'll have been sedated so can't drive home etc. My dh is dropping me off and my dad is collecting me with my niece who I am looking after for the weekend. I'm just upset that nobody thinks i'm important enough to make the effort for. I'm sure I probably am being unreasonable but if it was the other way around I would be there with them without question. (and have been) I feel really cold towards all of them although I do rationally see the reasons why they can't be there. Aibu to be so upset? I'm pretty nervous about it and I would love someone to be there for me but nobody will be. Someone tell me to get a grip! I feel ridiculous but I can't shake the feeling that nobody gives a shit!

I've never had one before but I know it's fairly straightforward. The only other option is to have the numbing spray on my throat but I don't think I'd tolerate that well, I think I'd panic.

Thank you welshweasel I hope I am on your list

Yanbu to feel upset. You'll be fine but it's nice to have someone in the waiting room, makes you feel a bit more cared for, especially when you have done the same for others in the past. I was in hdu after my last baby and dh and his family were all looking after our dc so nobody to come and visit me. I was fine as I had a midwife with me more or less round the clock but I did feel a bit unloved and pathetic.

I had one for the first time last year and had the numbing spray - I wasn't offered anything else and it was absolutely fine! I took myself there and back on the bus, mainly because having someone else around for stuff like that always makes me much more nervous than being on my own - as if I'd try to create my own drama with an audience (which I am absolutely NOT suggesting that you would do, but I might).

As far as I am concerned it was completely painless with a very mild discomfort sensation when the tube has to go down part of your throat that apparently doesn't seem natural for it - so there is a nanosecond of "what's that?" and then fine again.

Good luck and anticipation is almost always worse than reality.

youre just panicking which is normal but like others have said they cant come in with u anyway

or maybe should have just waited for the next appt if it wasnt urgent

I think it's normal to feel slightly vulnerable when you're having anything medical done, especially if you're not usually ill and so don't know what to expect.

I am opposite and tend to just get on with it, but I can see why you're feeling a bit sad.

I recently had to have a 24 hour ECG monitor fitted, and afterward my mum said that maybe she should have come down to be with me. As it happened, i was in there for such a short time that it would have been pointless her being there. In fact it took me longer to walk from the reception to the cardiology department than I spent in the room having the device fitted. .

I had to have mine without sedation, because it interacts with meds that I'm on.

It isn't what you picture.

You lay on your side and oxygen is put into your nose. Your then given a mouth peice.

There's three members of Staff (including the Consulant), one stays by your head (mine had his hand on my shoulder for reassurance) and the Consulant talks you through it.

I told him that I didn't want to watch the screen.

There's an odd pushing feeling from the inside out, but it isn't painful.

You've got to stay relaxed, but it's over in five minutes, that was with samples being taken.

It doesn't need your DH to take a day off and if you'd risk a job to sit outside, you'd be being silly.

Wishing you well, but yes, I think you are being unreasonable.

Ah, sorry you are worrying and that you have to have it.

DM had to have one (and a gastroscopy at the same time for double the fun) a couple of months ago and I could only stay with her in the pre-waiting waiting room iyswim, then come back and collect her an hour or two later. She said she was really glad she had the sedative. But the staff will also not let you go until you are ok to walk and in reasonable shape so don't worry about that bit.

You've your DH dropping you off and your DF picking you up. They care. You're important to them. It will be fine and the staff will be nice to you. (you get tea and biscuits afterwards)

There isn't much anyone can do for you while you are sedated. I have gone for all my operations along while dp looked after our dc and taken a taxi home afterwards. Last one was a big operation as well were I was in for 2 days..

Could you ring your dad as you go in so he's there close to when you come round?

I had the tube go up my nose rather than in my mouth. I was relieved. Maybe it's worth asking if that's possible.

Not sure whether you are BU or not.
I have had 2 endoscopies so far, one in a hospital I am familiar with, another in a completely new area, both an hour's drive away.

Had to drive myself there, and back, so could not have the local anaesthetic. No one came with me because we're a nuclear family and other half had to look after DC.

It's an uncomfortable but vital procedure as there is much that can be found out, for example, looking for stomach ulcers, taking biopsies for Barrett's Eosophagus/ Cancer/Heliobacter Pylorii, seeing the condition of the upper digestive tract, checking for Hiatus Hernias, the condition of the stomach lining, right down to the Duodenum.

It's well worth it. Wishing you all the very best.

In addition to what I wrote, I did have the 'banana' flavoured spray at the back of the throat which made it numb. This obviously doesn't make the patient woosy...

I think YANBU. Could the 3 of them not tag team to be there with you at least some of the time? You say your mum has to go early - do you mean early morning? The nervous waiting is tough so just having someone there to hold your hand for that would make a big difference IMO even if nobody was there after. Hope it goes OK for you .

I've just got home to a letter confirming the appointment and stating that due to space they can't let anybody wait with u. They will just advise a time to collect the person having procedure. So how much of a twonk do I feel thanks for all the positive stories, I feel much better now and I have got firm hold of grip

I had the reverse. Family begging to come, and me refusing, as I hate any sort of attention. It was fine - being picked up is the important bit, and you have that. You'll be fine.

you are being dropped off and collected -so that is more than enough for an adult.
you are an adult
no one can go in with you anyway for the procedure
the nurses will hold your hand if you ask them / if you tell them you are anxious

(i had one and went home on my own on the tube!)

Do you especially want to be sedated? I was 17 When I had my first endoscopy, I asked to be sedated as have a real sensitive gag reflex but I was the second to last that day and they asked if I was sure and could they try without, ( I suppose the recovery after sedation would have meant them hanging around for a while) so I thought I'd give it a go without and tbh it was fine! I was also glad I could just up and leave when it was all over.

I did retch a bit even with the spray but it honestly wasn't a problem. The nurse holding my hand was lovely and she stroked my back to help relax me. It really is all about being calm, remember the dr's and nurses have done hundreds and seen anything and everything you could think off!

You really will be fine and other than the sedation you wont need any recovery or anything, It's all over so quickly!