AIBU to worry that my 18 dd's only life is through social media

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DD has zero social life & spends all her waking hours on social media, never goes out, has no one to go out with and spends weekends and evenings with me?

Does she have a job or go to college?

What social media is she using? Is it not one that can at all transfer into 'real life'?

What social media is she using? Is she speaking to actual local friends that she could meet up with? Or does she speak to random people? Either way it sounds very unhealthy.

Is she in college or working? If neither then she really should be. Is she depressed? Has she got real life friends?

From experience I'd say yes you're right to be concerned.

I'd be very concerned if she doesn't have something to do during the day - job/studying/volunteering.

I wouldn't worry about how she chooses to spend her free time, though. I'm an introvert and my 'social life,' such as it is, is mostly conducted online. If the internet didn't exist, I wouldn't have become sociable, I'd just be more isolated.

She's just left college and looking for work.
She's using Facebook, snapchat and instagram.
It hit me after this last weekend just how isolated she is.

She has been talking to someone for months on all the above social media with very little chance to meet up with them as they live many miles away. As a family we know them as they are involved in an activity my dh does. Anyway to cut a long story short this person has been filling her so full of bullsh@t and he had promised her the world. This weekend he paraded his new girlfriend in front of her.

She does have hobbies that involve meeting other people but is reliant on me driving her there (we show horses). TBH the showing world is full of aquantances but no real friends.

Oh, and to add to the mix although she is 18 she would easily get taken for a 12 or 13 year old.

Bengal, I get that you're married and all but us 'older' people still use social media on smart phones. In fact all my friends do, and we're all in the 23-27 age range.

Lol I'm 43 and use Twitter and Instagram on my phone!

I was this kid, though there was no social media then. I stayed home reading, playing Nintendo, or talking on the phone.

I got more of a social life when I went away to college, and I didn't have to ask anyone to drive me so I could see friends, and didn't have to get the third degree every time I wanted to go out. I always was an introvert, though. That's just what I am. The Internet was a boon to my social life, as it has been to lots of introverts.

I'm 41 now, married, and have two kids. One of them is an 11 month old who doesn't sleep, so my social life is largely online. I still like video games.

You say she never goes out but if until the end of term she's been attending college, she's currently looking for work, and she goes out to horse events with you that sounds like plenty of going out to me.
I really don't see a problem.
If this is a sudden change then I could understand a cause for concern but right now to me your post just reads like you making a fuss over the fact your daughter is a little introverted

My DD left school this summer. She's currently on holiday with her boyfriend, then off for 2 weeks' work experience ' and then after that she will stay in her bedroom in her phone / laptop until she goes to uni. So, a bit of a mix, (and we live 200 miles from her school friends) ...

I think a mix is good so pursuade her to go out each day and communicate with real people...

I honestly don't think I'm over reacting when she hasn't spoken to anyone outside the family for the last 7 days. Yes we go out together but now she's finished college it's like we are joined at the hip.

Well, like you, I would be worried if my teens didn't go out, yes.
It should be a wonderful time in your life. Ihave lots of family and friends around that age and most are actually on holiday now - enjkying being able to go in term time and without the wrinklies