To be pissed off that he has done it again

[Highlandfling80]

So dh and I both have health issues. His issues are probably more long term and require frequent blood test's. I have had multiple symptoms but my issues are less permanent.
I a a Sah and dh is employed in a high level job.
So about 2 years ago I had a colonoscopy under sedation which thankfully was clear. Dh couldn't spare the time to take a day off so he wfh and took me in and collected me. In theory I wasn't supposed to be in charge of small children for 24 hours but upon collecting me from hospitals he decided he needed a blood test. He suggested me and 2 and 8 year old wait in car whilst he did this. I refused as I didn't want 8 year old having responsibility if I was poorly. Do we all went to blood test section but J was the one running after toddler even before dh went in. The rest of the day I spent looking after DC whilst he worked. Fortunately I was fine. A few months later he took day off for him to go on a day out do he could have taken day off for me.
So tomorrow I am having minor op under GA as a day case. He is dropping me off and collecting and I have arranged for a family member to be there tomorrow to look after DC and me if discharged early.
On Tuesday dh has taken day off as I need an adult with me for 24 hours and my family member can't stay but yet again he is sneaking off to get s blood test done.
Ainu to be fed up that my needs seen to always be trumped by his.

Bogeyface by describing the OP as 'moaning about it' you're being about as helpful as her OH. Nobody is forcing you to reply.

Is he not going for a blood test as it's convenient cos he is already there with you? So he doesn't have to take time off again for it? That would make sense to me.

But Bum the blood test is at the GP not the hospital where the OP is having a general anaesthetic.

OP I hope you can talk it through and get him to understand that he cannot behave in this way. But I do worry you've left it a bit late. Perhaps tell the nursing staff / anaesthetist that your husband is refusing to take their discharge criteria seriously.

By the way other posters are being rather optimistic with the idea that the hospital will 'just keep you in'. I was refused day surgery as I couldn't arrange someone to be there.

The hospital said it wasn't their responsibility to care for day surgery patients as the wards close for the night and I wouldn't be a priority for another bed in another ward. Day surgery is considered non emergency (as are a lot of other ops too), so I'd be refused surgery and put at the back of the waiting list again.

Update. Previous incident blood test was in hospital follow sedation. I expected he would take DC with him to get blood test before collecting me. But no her wanted me to wait in car with DC.
This time the blood test was at GP surgery within the 24 hour window where I need supervision.
It is all rather academic now as op was postponed. So got to wait till Thursday now. At least he have his blood test in peace now.
Meanwhile he has gone to lie on the bed as his legs are more comfortable that way.

Ok and can he cover Thursday / fri? Time to spell out the role - as decreed by your doctors, not by you - and ensure that he's fully signed up.

If he can't and no-one else can, you must tell your doctor ASAP. Keeping you in hospital would probably require more notice, if possible at all where you're having this, so postponement may be likely.

However, when you tell the medical professionals that you have someone available to look out for you while you rest (real rest) for 24 hours, they take medical decisions accordingly. Lying to them about this would not be a trivial matter. Don't lie to cover for your DH, you implicate the professionals treating you, not 'just' yourself and any children you might find yourself looking after.

A blood test takes about 5 mins. I can't say I'm seeing the big issue here. When I had major abdo surgery my ex came to visit with my children about 4 hours post op. He left them with me whilst he went to the shop. We all survived!
When I had a colonoscopy, I went back home to my 3 under 5s.

The one following the colonoscopy took about an hour as as at hospital so we had to wait. He has done blood test today so will be available Friday. Thursday he will act as a taxi and I will have. A sibling with me.
O was also responsible for an under 5 after sedation. Again it was fine but itvupset me that he couldn't tHe a days holiday to look after our child but could book a day off a few months later to go to an exhibition.
Guess we will see how it goes. Further to that we have another issue due to postponement. He is going out Friday evening.

Have you told him how bothered you are? Perhaps he just doesn't realise. Ask him not to go out Friday if you want him at home.

He has basically told me he is not missing it as its a close work colleagues leaving do and he has to go. I will be fine as our eldest Dd will be around.
I told him I was hacked off Re blood test situation and I did express surprise that he didn't have annual leave available when I needed him but did when he wanted to do a hobby.