DS never gets to take part in PE :( advice?

[emistingtress]

DS hasn't particularly gotten on with many people this year. He is never picked when they play a group sport, so he sits at the side and takes scores. Teacher has said that he should try and make friends with his class. It hasn't happened yet... He still sits at the side and takes scores unless it's the warm up of something that isn't a group sport but it nearly always is

Sadly, not a surprise. My experiences of private school (from the teaching side) are that the teachers are themselves petulant bullied products of the private school system - and many of them act out, repearing the same crap that didn't work when they were being bullied themselves. Very sad. If I were to pick a private school it would be one where not one member of staff was educated in one (though you'd be hard pushed to find one).

How sad. I'm guessing he's on his summer holiday, but please get it sorted before the new school year

Definitely speak to the teacher. If she/he makes excuses and says it's not her/his fault that no-one picks your DS, then suggest that your DS gets to pick the teams next time.

I now make them stand in a line - no captains- and go 1,2,1,2 etc until everyone is assigned to team one or two and then pick someone at random to kick off.

My teacher used to do this in PE, we knew what was coming when told to line up against the wall and friends would just make sure they were in alternate order so that we'd all be 1s or 2s and get on same team.

Teacher probably knew that's what was going on, but very child took part and no one was left being picked last each week, or even worse, not at all like in the OP.

I think teachers do a great Job and they get a hard time on here, but I can't get my head around why a teacher would allow that, I thought PE is now a lesson in the same way science is? I've no experience of Prep schools though but I'd not be pleased with any child regularly being excluded from lessons.

Do the other kids include him outside of PE OP, at break times etc or is this a problem in other areas too?

This really is not done by any proper teacher or coach - if the teacher has verified that is in fact what is happening, then I would be complaining to the school about the whole situation. The teacher / coach is there to teach all the dc, not just those who are good at a game or those who have p;enty of friends in the class - this is appalling!

Outrageous. It's unacceptable on so many levels. You need to speak to the school and address this ASAP

They should choose 2 different pupils to pick each time then DS will get his own opportunity. Also there are plenty of warm up activities which can mix pupils up so they end up in two or more groups - those become the teams for that lesson.

The teacher is allowing his exclusion, which can only be encouraging the bullies further. The teacher is ignoring the situation and putting the responsibility for fixing it on to your 9 year old. I'd speak to the teacher and if no change I'd go to the head. The teacher should be picking the teams and varying them each time. Your child is entitled to his PE, after all it's part of the curriculum.

I still don't see how he is actually sitting out of PE lessons due to not having friends - even if he is picked last that is a separate issue (I agree it is horrible but it is a separate issue to not participating at all). If he's picked last he's still on the last team picked...

emist has he really not done PE all year due to this? Or are you actually talking about break time?