To think SIL is BU about Facebook photos of DNiece?

[SamanthaBrique]

DN (2yo) was over recently, playing with DS (also 2) and they decided to play hide and seek. I could see DN and DS hiding behind the curtains and their feet were sticking out the bottom. It looked very cute so I snapped a photo and uploaded it to FB with a caption along the lines of having two little intruders in the house.

However SIL later saw this and sent me a long message about how she wants tone private and doesn't want any photos of DN on social media and how could I do such a thing etc etc. I took the photo down immediately of course, but given that all that could be seen of DS and DN was their feet, was she being a bit unreasonable in her response?

Your SIL is being a dick. Her child's feet are hardly reason to cause such drama. Tell her to get over herself

YANBU.

Your SIL is BU.

I can't believed anyone thinks otherwise.

It was just feet.

Having been the subject of many unflattering photos myself, I can well imagine and I always assumed saying something would just draw more attention to it so I tend to quietly untag and console myself with chocolate! Luckily we have photoshop now so anything can always be removed!

I didn't realise that about being able to take photos in public of children. I always assumed the opposite since some celebrities insist the media blur out the faces of their children when they publish pictures.

It does seem OTT to complain about a picture that just shows feet at first -

• but on reflection I would guess it's easier to maintain a point blank "no pictures of any part of my child" policy than to start muddying the water with some photos being okay but other (more identifying) not, especially if she has relatives who'd be likely to flood FB with photos of her kids if they're given an inch.

If I let one of my SILs post pictures of my dc, however unidentifiable it was, it absolutely would open the floodgates to my other SILs to post pictures.

She overreacted-it was only feet at the end of the day.
As for those asking why people don't post photos of their children-

I do not post photos of dd on social media because I don't think it's upto me to decide whether or not her childhood photos are up on a website. My mil and sil would also share any I put on (unless I disabled that option I suppose) therefore making photos of her visible to people we don't know. Privacy may not be an issue to some people but I respect my daughters right to it. Children are not property.

However if any of my friends put a photo of her on without asking I wouldn't say anything - it's happened and will certainly happen again. It's not worth an argument-I just untag myself.

Peeporeader that's partly why I untag myself-I dong want a row but equally I don't want mil and sil seeing it as permission (which they would).

I think it is justified because she doesn't want any photos of her child on social media and it will make it a faff if she says "well that one is ok because it is just her feet" but then others post stuff where her child isn't identifiable but still in the photo and she won't be able to say anything. Better to have 1 rule from the beginning. Her child, her choice, not yours so suck it up.

I had a blanket ban. I also include myself in the ban.
I have a ban because well I don't want pictures over social media. Someone used to take the piss and post a picture of an eye, a nose, a mouth and by the time all the little shots were pieced together you had a full picture of my child, so I said no full stop. All because I used to say no Identifying pictures.

My older dc's (18 - 23) are also very happy that I didn't post pictures all over social media. they feel sorry for some of their mates who have loads. Especially those embarrassing ones that would normally be locked away in a photo album.

I wouldn't put a photo of anyone on FB without asking first.

I don't have any photos of my kids on social media, but I would always explain politely and that I understand it's unusual and they weren't to know but I would appreciate if they took it down. I have never had anyone refuse/get annoyed but I do try to be polite. I think that's where your SIL went wrong!
So YABU if you don't remove it but she is BU to be rude.

Feet..... She needs to chill. Unless her DC has hideous feet, then she's completely within reason

It was a photo of her kid's feet? SO identifying I'm sure.

Give me strength.

YANBU.

I don't have Facebook. My dad's pic has never been on social media but I wouldn't give a shite about her feet at the bottom of a curtain. Ridiculous.

My dd's pic, not Dad's pic

Yanbu
If the feet weren't tagged then she is being ridiculous and there is no thin end of the wedge argument because THEY WERE NOT HER DAUGHTER'S IDENTIFIABLE FEET! What's next- no pics of your dd in case she is identified as SILs dd's relative?

Sil is being utterly ridiculous, officious and precious. I can't imagine caring about something like this or having to deal with people who care about this.

I have a no FB rule for my DC but if someone posted a pic of just their feet I really wouldn't care, as long as they're not identifiable then there can't be any harm!

is your SIL my actual DSis? if i want to upload a picture of my DD with her DC i have to cover their faces first lol. which is totally fair enough, they're her children. so i've been having fun and my niece and nephew have taken on the form of lion, bunny rabbit, alien, tomato head, banana head etc x

I think you are BU

Your SIL does not want her child on facebook, you must have known this beforehand.

You disregarded her wishes and put her DD on facebook. Do you and your SIL generally have a good relationship?

The photo was not tagged - just two pairs of little feet sticking out from under a curtain.