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Milkymilkywaywayy · 08/07/2016 01:06

Long story short, went on a couple of dates frw months ago. Liked the guy, he was shy but sweet, first date was better and less awkward more tipsy than the second. We semi stayed in touch but both v busy and living in different places so not really.

I was actually thinking of contacting him today randomly but decided against it as there wasn't a huge spark for me (although he was nice) and I just thought well, what's the point.

He very weirdly messaged today though, completely out the blue, asking how I was and how things had been.

Although I was intrigued at first, now I'm a bit more pragmatic and not sure what can really come of it. Why after all this time?? I'm also not sure if there's any chemistry. I do think he's nice though.

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Birdsgottafly · 08/07/2016 01:15

What do you want, are you ever going to get it from him?

Im probably a lot older than you, but I know what I want from whoever I meet and now cut my loses, early.

Sometimes there might be a big physical attraction and I decide that sex is all. I can't fake or grow to fancy someone, there's got to be a spark to build on, being nice isn't good enough.

Milkymilkywaywayy · 08/07/2016 01:17

I don't know... You're right. I like a lot things about him and I'm intrigued as to whether I might like him more as I get to know him if that makes sense?

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Birdsgottafly · 08/07/2016 01:31

If you meet up again, stay sober, don't build up a fantasy about where it could lead to and judge him on his actions, including taking time to get back in touch.

Milkymilkywaywayy · 08/07/2016 01:34

Yeah that's another concern. We have both been very busy and he has just returned to the country actually. But I feel a bit put out/curious too - why now?!

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bellabelly · 08/07/2016 01:35

was actually thinking of contacting him today randomly but decided against it as there wasn't a huge spark for me (although he was nice) and I just thought well, what's the point.

He very weirdly messaged today though, completely out the blue, asking how I was and how things had been.

IT IS FATE!!! Reply, go on...

Milkymilkywaywayy · 08/07/2016 01:37

Haha bella, I do think all the timing is a bit woo if I'm honest Grin

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BengalCatMum · 08/07/2016 01:54

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OlennasWimple · 08/07/2016 01:56

DH often phones me when I am just picking up the phone to call him, my mum too...

Reply in a non-committal way and see where it goes...?

BengalCatMum · 08/07/2016 01:59

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GarlicStake · 08/07/2016 02:38

I feel a bit put out/curious too - why now?!

Erm, could it be because

he has just returned to the country actually.

  • which would be why you thought of him just now, too.

Honestly, some people! Grin

Sure, see him if you've got nothing better to do. Don't build it up into anything it's not. Have a nice time :)

Milkymilkywaywayy · 08/07/2016 03:14

Thanks, good advice!

Haha I am a real sucker for fate so def going to make sure I just take this at face value.

Nothing to lose by replying, I guess!

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ktalgfdk · 08/07/2016 12:50

Reply!

ktalgfdk · 08/07/2016 13:06

I also think it's fate Wink

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