Put this in chat but genuinely wondering if I did something wrong or not?
I had a friend who I'd met a few years ago on a holiday - our children were a similar age and we were both single parents. We got on well, though I found her a bit full on - I'm a bit of an introvert and like company sometimes but not always. I found her a bit needy but still enjoyed her company mostly and our kids got on. I was quite happy to just see her occasionally as we live about 100 miles away and both have busy lives working full time etc. In the last four years since I've met her I've met someone and my partner and his four children (plus my two) and I all live together (so no longer a single parent).
I still saw my friend but around twice a year, given our busy lives. Anyway, the last couple of years have been awful for me, both my parents died, - my mother very suddenly last October (her and I were very, very close) and I sunk into a kind of depression. I had been running a business but I gave up on it when she died and then was out of work until February this year. My job though is temporary until September so I am not out of the woods yet, though I feel much better in myself finally. I think I was in the depths of depression for around 6 months. In addition, I have had to be sorting out my parents' house, my childhood home, which is very, very difficult and it is finally on the market.
One way and another, I didn't contact my friend for around 9 months. She didn't contact me either though. I did get in touch this week to explain why I hadn't been in touch, to invite her to stay and to try to get back in touch. Her reaction was 'sorry about your loss and all...but bereavement or no bereavement I find your loss of contact very odd, think we'd better just stick to Christmas cards from now on...'
Feel very hurt by this, I think my mother's death (and my father's a year or so before) really, really knocked it out of me. I was hardly functioning for 6 months and am still on ADs. Just very sad by her reaction...