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AIBU?

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To think these parents were irresponsible?

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RoobyAymeliaJowe · 06/07/2016 08:31

On Monday, the whole of year 6 (90 kids) went on a residential trip. First thing Monday morning one of the parents announced on facebook they'd been throwing up all night, as had husband and youngest child. Monday at 8:30 said parent is at the school gates to drop their Year 6 child at school for the trip.

Yesterday she had to go collect said child due to him throwing up.

Since then, 8 other children have had to be collected due to throwing up.

AIBU To think the mum should never have sent the child on the trip in the first place?

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LikeASoulWithoutAMind · 06/07/2016 10:32

Tricky one - year 6 child wasn't ill before they left and as others have said, it's pretty rare for all of us to come down with the same bug.

Also it's really not definite that the 8 other children who are now ill caught it from this child. They could have been exposed to it at the weekend before they left.

NavyAndWhite · 06/07/2016 10:38

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Whatthefreakinwhatnow · 06/07/2016 10:40

I'd have sent them too, you can't keep them off on the off chance they might get ill, hpw ridiculous!

BennyTheBall · 06/07/2016 10:59

I'd have chanced it.

Felyne · 06/07/2016 11:00

If you're going to be sneaky and send your kid along to school (either normal classes or a trip) when they're either ill or potentially ill, then you're a bit silly to put it on Facebook!

"First thing Monday morning one of the parents announced on facebook they'd been throwing up all night, as had husband and youngest child." OP by 'they' did you mean the parent or the Y6 child had been throwing up?

Aworldofmyown · 06/07/2016 11:01

If the child had not been sick and was not ill then YABU not the parents.

In my house it is not inevitable for us all to get a bug that another has, my DS for example rarely gets tummy bugs so my daughter can be horribly ill and he is fine.

Magtheridon · 06/07/2016 12:06

The mother said everyone in the household was ill apart from this child - so as I said previously common sense says this child was going to get ill. It wasn't like she was sending this child on a trip a week after they'd all had it, or even days afterwards - but while they were all ill, so yeah I think as a precaution the child should have been kept off and that it was very irresponsible. mainly because it was a bug in which they were all throwing up and going to be travelling!! It wasn't like they just had a headache or the sniffles.

WorraLiberty · 06/07/2016 12:56

The mother said everyone in the household was ill apart from this child - so as I said previously common sense says this child was going to get ill.

No it doesn't.

Plenty of people have stated here that not everyone in their families necessarily get ill, just because others do.

BeckyMcDonald · 06/07/2016 12:59

Eh? You can't keep a child at home because other people in the house have been ill. My children would basically never go to school if I did that, and I'd never go to work.

pippistrelle · 06/07/2016 13:07

common sense says this child was going to get ill.

Well, no. Common sense says there's a possibility that this child was going to get ill. Not the same at all.

987flowers · 06/07/2016 13:12

We've had sickness in the house that 3 out of 4 of us had. I wouldn't keep a child off just in case as they may not get it!

purplevase4 · 06/07/2016 13:12

I'm trying to think if we've ever all had the same stomach bug. There have certainly been cases where two out of the three of us have had it but I am not sure all three of us have had the same thing.

I'm on the fence. It's a lot of money to lose on a maybe. Depending on where the trip was, they might have been able to take the child on the second day if they still were showing no signs of being ill but that would not have been possible on my son's year 6 trip as they were about 4 hours away. And as someone else said, the other kids might have caught it from another child on the trip. So I don't think you can be too annoyed about it because you just don't know what the source of the infection was.

Witchend · 06/07/2016 13:56

Another one who's in 15 years of having children has once had a sickness bug passed between them. In fact they don't often get sickness bugs at all. I wish I could say it's because we're great at hygiene, but it isn't.

I wouldn't have kept one off because the others are ill, and if I'd phoned the school to ask then I'm certain the school would have said the same.

And anyway it isn't necessarily that child who passed it around. If the younger child has it there's a good chance that it's going round and any of the children could have it. Maybe they should have cancelled the entire trip on that basis?

My dd2 once went on a trip where one of the teachers started throwing up the evening they arrived. About 3/4 the children caught it and had it within the next few days. You've never seen anything like the white faces that got off the bus...

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