I have name changed for this, but hoping for perspective.
My DS is moving college for second year of his course come September. He has been accepted and all is good. The reason for the move is because the new one is closer to home and has better facilities. My DS has aspergers and will be getting extra support.
We have had a number of issues at home, including DS not coping with GCSEs, running away and coming back , my DH being diagnosed with a serious illness and having lifesaving surgery and is in a long recovery. The new college is aware of this as it impacted DSs attendance and his performance on his course. His learning needs assessor has been great and will support him in class but has recommended he meet with the student counsellor.
Prior to us being together, so 10 years ago, my DH worked at the college and was in a relationship with one if the student counsellors. He ended it before it got, he says, too serious. She wanted him to meet her children. He didn't. He is younger than her - 12 years younger.
When we got together, I was aware they were friends from Facebook and thought she commented a lot on his things but he only mentioned their relationship after a few months of us being together. She then started openly putting suggestive comments on his updates, and have him a silly nickname. I told DH I thought it was a bit much and he told her to stop.
Following that she sent me a tonne of bonkers shite. She messaged me to tell me I was a bitch for stopping him speaking to her, I was lucky to have him. He was all she ever wanted and now she couldn't even doesn't have access to hi him as a friend. It broke her heart to see him with my DS as he would not meet her kids so I must have hypnotised him. Proper batshit crazy. I did not respond at all. She then said she would burn my house down so I reported it to the police and blocked her. End of.
That was 6 years ago. But she is still a student counsellor at the college. WIBU to speak to the college and ask that she does not get access to his file if he does want student counselling services? Or would I look mad? Is this a conflict of interest? I am embarrassed about the whole thing. I did not want to stop DS from going there over this, it is a good college. But I don't want to risk more crazy stuff.