mother at school trying to make me feel shitty

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I went to pick my 2 DSD's up from school with my 6 month old DS in pram and almost 2 year old DS on the reins. We live opposite the school, less than a minute walk otherwise I'd have taken the double pram.
I was pushing the pram with one hand and holding the reins with the other, ds1 tripped up and fell over but I pulled him up with the reins and caught him just in time for his head not to hit the ground.
One of the mothers walking behind me had to chip in telling me that I shouldn't do that and that when I'm bathing DS1 later on I will be wondering why he has graze marks under his arms (from pulling him up by the reins).
Firstly, he had a t shirt, a hoodie and a thick coat on so there's no way it would have hurt him.
Secondly, it was either that or let him smash his head in to the floor.
AIBU to think she should have minded her own bloody business?

What a rude bitch, I'd have told her to keep her unhelpful comments to herself.

DS1 had reins as he refused to go in a pushchair from a year old, or hold hands and would run off at the first opportunity (started walking at 10m). He was on reins for over a year and I had to yank him back, or up, many times. I never remember him having grazes under his arm - but I do remember avoiding a lot of bumps and bruises by him not faceplanting the pavement.

As for why he had a coat on, have you seen the weather this week? Lots of my friends still haven't switched their central heating off!

Cel982 that bathing comment made me . Well meaning interfering busybodies love coming across me. I can't control my sarcasm most of the time.

YANBU I'd have to!d her to fuck off and mind her own business

Snowgirl my kids have had to wear thick coats for the past 2-3 days now it's like winter where we are and we are in England. As I type this it's blowing a gale outside.

YADNBU silly busybody, she was...... Why are some people so Fing outspoken?

I think DailyFail is pre-empting the way these threads often go - posters piling on to defend interfering busybodies, and make the OP feel like shit. :)

Some people have a real thing about reins and seem to feel they represent the worst evils of parenting. Someone in my network started a thread on FB a while ago ranting about a parent she had seen dragging her kid on reins and how awful it was and how she had 3 DC and never needed to use them ; 'how hard can it be to teach kids to listen?' etc. Most people on the thread agreed with her.

Seeing kids on reins seems to bring out the judginess in some. I had a bolting 2-year old so I don't mind them and never judge anyone I see using them.

She was a busybody OP, YWNBU.

However usual Mumsnet overreaction on this thread, toddlers fall over all the time, it doesn't automatically mean gashed heads and stitches.

i'm just impressed you have a kid who will walk on reins. all of mine just saw them as an excuse to dange lifelessly like puppets.

She was being a busybody- mine never walked on reins, they used to lift their legs up so I was holding them mid air and think it was great. Never had grazed armpits

i'm just impressed you have a kid who will walk on reins. all of mine just saw them as an excuse to dangle lifelessly like puppets.

Ahhhaaaa... FOUND YOU! Now I know who the Mother of the other kids are.

It was your kids that showed this trick to my kids. Everytime I said to my DD and DS not to do this they said "the other kids do it"

Yep my reply would have been "I'd rather wonder where he got the graze than know whe he got a massive gash to his forehead"

Nobody can make you feel shitty. Either you have no reason to, and you don't, or you do and you feel shitty. Your choice.

2nds yep. We've had the gales the lot. With the spurious moments of sunshine? Are you up north? I felt so sorry for my DS this week. We cut through countryside on school run as I don't drive. It was sunny when i went to pick him up at home time. As we came back up the rain came out of nowhere and was so heavy and fast. I put him in the biggest and warmest bath when we got home. . Sorry for the hijack OP.

DS used to drop n dangle like Tom Cruise in Mission Impossible.

Shrug it off. Who cares what she thinks.

YABVVVVVU OP. She was just trying to help.

How on earth was she trying to help?

Don't even bother thinking about it again. Seriously.

It's a natural reaction to "jerk" on reins if a toddler trips, I've done it (a long time ago!!!). No doubt if he wasn't on reins and fell she'd say "you should have reins", nosy mare.

Oh and by the way, I'm a fan of reins, they are brilliant (and there are a lot of mums I see who could do with investing in a pair). We still have DN's pink leather/buckle ones with her name (😩) on from 1987!!!

I've had this a few times, unnecessary and unsolicited advice from people. It is rude unless it's serious and obvious great harm will arise if you don't.

Yanbu at all and I'd have told her to fuck right off. As a pp said, I expect she's one of the reins are the work of the devil brigade also known as a judgy cow
Ignore. Both my dc had reins, they're adults now and neither of them think they were treated like a dog on a lead, just that they were kept safe really

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Graze under armpits or possible stitches due to smashing head on floor? Hmmmm. Wonder which I'd prefer.

Or worse still, a brain injury or death. Of course it's highly unlikely, but if an adult can fall over and hit their head and then die because of the impact injury then you can guarantee it can happen to a child who will have a softer skull. The reins reduce that very slim possibility to near zero, no reins does not.

She was being a judgemental twat. HTH