So I had plans this morning to go see my mum, grandma and grandad then go run some errands do a few things in the afternoon. My mum rings me asking me if she can come sleep on my sofa tonight coz she's not feeling well and thinks she will collapse. I say to her it's not possible because we can't pick her up later because we have things to do and it will get too late, we have to cook and DH has a friend coming over to help him with some work. We have a 7 seater car but won't have room to pick her up coz we have 5 kids and me and DH obviously so that would mean he would have to drop me and kids off and make another trip to pick her up and we would have to cancel any plans we currently had. I've told her to go to A and E because she said she has such a banging headache and feels faint.. Her response was 'on my own?' I can't go With her coz I have have a 3 weeks old baby to breast feed. She's now saying she has no family who can be bothers with her and making me feel bad basically but is it really my responsibility that she's not well? Am I unreasonable to expect her to deal with this herself? She's got no kids at home now and can't be on her own?? I feel like she's not 'a mum' because she doesn't understand I have kids and now wants me to essentially 'care for her' at mine coz she can't do it on her own.