To want a thank you for cleaning?

[MalteserChick]

My DP always makes snide comments about the house, baring in mind I have a 6 month old and am hardly getting any sleep at the moment, I'm struggling. But I built up the will and determination to clean the whole house, top to bottom, also had to clean off mould off a wall and paint it with anti-mould paint, plus I got round to de-weeding the garden and sorting out all the herbs and flowers. Boy do I feel proud of myself, granted it's taken all week, a few hours here, a few hours there, but I've achieved the unachievable.
I guess now I'm just feeling very underappreciated, it's not easy juggling baby, pets, cooking, cleaning, friends and family, but my DP has come home, and I atleast expected a "wow, the house looks nice"...ANYTHING...no NOTHING. ungrateful c*. Plus he has the nerve to drape his muddy, filthy clothes round the house, wake a sleeping baby and moan what's for dinner

I MIGHT EXPLODE

calming thoughts

Unfortunately, I think it's unlikely things will change - if he's always been like that, you becoming a SAHP will rather confirm that it's 'your' role to clean and his to do manly things like earning money.

Personally, I would be inclined to hedge my bets in this situation - i.e. protecting my earnings potential by going back to work. Otherwise you'd better learn to like it, because he's not going to change. You'll get less tired in time, but you'll still be picking up after someone who won't do his fair share even when you're on your knees. It would grind my love down pretty quickly.