To wonder how I can stop negatively comparing myself to other blokes?

[Revengeoftheseabass]

I realise it's a sign of low self-esteem, but I constantly feel inferior to other men - the self-confident hipsters, the 'cheeky' laddish charmers, even other overweight nerdy guys.

Jealousy is such a destructive emotion, I know, but I'd just love to feel positive about myself, and actually believe that there are women out there who might somehow find me attractive (and yes, I know, self-pity is never sexy...)

He'll be here somewhere. He's not going anywhere. I think he likes being told off by stern ladies.

Women aren't generally as shallow as men when it comes to the appearance of potential partners. I know lots of girls (myself included) who really like less classically attractive men, especially geeky ones, as they're often smart, sweet and funny as hell. I'm currently extremely happily married to one And when we met, he in his 30s, I was only his second girlfriend.

I know it sounds banal but just be yourself. Get yourself out there - go to Comic Cons or movie marathons or whatever you're into, make yourself as presentable as you can (I don't mean a suit, but clean, good hair, interesting clothing is good), and don't be afraid of approaching someone. People at these kinds of things see you as a kindred spirit, not a 'fat, sweaty' guy. Then be your smart, sweet, funny self

Also, don't forget, most women are massively insecure too. We just might not show it.

In that case, come of FB, get rid of your MN login and stop reading reddit