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34 replies

notfornothing · 29/06/2016 09:46

There is an older lady walking past my house i think almost every morning. Nothing strange about that but she goes one way, then back after a while (maybe popping to the shops?) then after a little while she does another return trip, and then possibly another.
I've got kids and a life so I'm not glued to the window but i keep noticing her. Today she changed her coat between trips.
Where is she going?
She has a small shopping/carrier bag, but there doesn't seem to be much in it. It's as if she does her shopping one item at a time?

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ohtheholidays · 29/06/2016 10:32

She could be caring for some ill older neighbours.

A lovely neighbour of ours that used to live across the road from us(she sadly passed away a few years ago)used to call in on 2 other neighbours that were a little bit older than her and weren't well.

She was in her 70's her self bless her,one lady she visited all the time that lived at the bottom of our road had MS and she'd call in on her every day and take her bits she needed,another lovely lady that lived around the corner from us was in her 80's and her mobility had gone down hill really quickly,she'd pop in and check on her every day as well and run errands fo her.

We checked on the lady that lived around the road as well,we'd see her in the morning when we were taking the children to school,she'd stand at her door every day waiting to see us and the children.We'd leave about 10 minutes earlier than we needed to so that we could stop and have a chat with her in the morning,she loved seeing the children and catching up with us all,before we left we'd check if she needed anything from the local shop,or needed a newspaper or needed us to post anything.
Then on the way back from picking up the children from school she'd be waiting for us at her frontdoor again and the same as the morning we'd stop to have a chat and we'd check she was okay and if she needed anything.
They've all sadly passed away now,me,my DH and our 5DC still miss them all.

If that is what the lady's doing it's quite common where we live,to see other older friends and neighbours helping other neighbours and friends out that aren't well.I think it's a really lovely way to be.

MardAsSnails · 29/06/2016 10:40

Letting someone's dog out for a pee break a couple of times a day?

notfornothing · 29/06/2016 10:47

Thinking back, i've been seeing her since we moved here 6 months ago, so no idea how long she has been doing the walks.
I have said hello couple of times when outside myself and she replies, but doesn't seem interested in a chat.

She could be around 60, but possibly younger.

She does the trips one after another, so not like taking a dog out 3 times.

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trafalgargal · 29/06/2016 10:48

If you leave the house more than once a day ....you could be suffering from dementia ?

Before the days of supermarkets it wasn't unusual to make two trips to the shops, pop in and visit a friend for a cuppa (no Costa culture) , no car and shopping local for everything was the norm . Women were often out and about ,if the weather changed they might put a different coat on ....or even feel a nicer coat was more appropriate for visiting than shopping. Some even felt PJs weren't appropriate for taking their kids to school. You'll see these ladies using their OAP bus passes to keep themselves out and about and occupied.

Why not say hello to her next time she passes or even wave from your window. Maybe she'll tell you what she's doing but I don't think it's any mystery just someone getting on with their life.

Heavens2Betsy · 29/06/2016 10:49

I had a relative with Alzheimers who used to go to the shops then forget she'd gone and go again and again and again. She was happy enough pottering about the place with her shopping and became quite well known for it where she lived.
Could it be something like that.

trafalgargal · 29/06/2016 10:59

If she's sixty she's probably working as she is below retirement age.
Possible part time job in the mornings ....comes home and then pops out shopping or visiting. That would explain the coat change coat for work, different coat for leisure. Even if she's older, bit of volunteering in the morning then home before going out. Maybe she volunteers in a charity shop and the new coat was one shed bought that day.

I have a neighbour of working age who cares for her disabled husband. She is always in and out as she can't leave her husband for long so does her shopping and errands in short bursts returning to check on him, care for him, chat with him in between each trip out.

There's lots of reasons but maybe she's just a wake up call that it's summer and you too could be out and about more with your little ones rather than watching the world go by from your window.

MrsJayy · 29/06/2016 11:12

60 isnt an old woman i was thinking 70+ she could have a cleaning job morning and afternoon or anything my mum has just retired at 64 she was in and out all hours cos she worked shifts

MrsJayy · 29/06/2016 11:13

Sorry you said older but still

problembottom · 29/06/2016 11:19

My DM was a carer at that age, visiting older (!) people in their homes. She'd pop to the shops for them etc and would be in and out all day.

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