To be petrified

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7 months preg and terrified my husband will cheat because my sex drive is non existent 😔 Is this normal?im constantly anxious

op i had horrific HG from being ab out 8 weeks pregnant, i literally was violently sick every time i took a breath - there wasn't a cat in hell's chance he was getting sex. i had exactly the same concerns as you. please be assured your worries are perfectly normal for lots of pregnant ladies.

however, please talk to your dh, he may well have needs but for the time being porn and his own hand will suffice if he cannot manage to go for longer than a week (he b est get used to it, after you have had stitches down there no one is going near it with a penis for a while no matter how much of a stud he is), however he needs to know his jokes are hurting you and that you need his support. he is probably trying to make light of it to make you feel better and is just crap at judging what is appropriate. You can get revenge by squeezing his hand til it drops off when you are in labour

I had a very low sex drive during pregnancy and always felt too tired. Now my baby is born, usually I'm lucky if I even get to sleep without her in our bed for a few hours and my libido is at the lowest it has ever been (believe it may be down to breastfeeding and generally feeling too tired with a baby and toddler) We bought a pack of 6 condoms for Christmas and only had to replace them in may, just to put into perspective how many times we've dtd. And my baby is 9 months old!

My dp has never tried made me feel bad or pressured me, he's even declined as could tell my heart wasn't in it and would feel funny. He knows it's not him, and one day we'll get 'it' back.

Not saying this to make you feel bad but if he's unsupportive and you're anxious about him cheating now, what will he be like with the added pressure of a baby? Of waiting 6 weeks after birth or even longer depending on how you heal downstairs?

If he leaves you (ffs!) because you're not up for a shag when you're fairly heavily pregnant, then you and your baby are well rid.

I just showed this to my dp who is 26. His exact words? What a bellend. You'd have punched my head in. Is she your mate? Cos if she is, she can tell him to back the fuck off or I'll sort his fucking needs, woman's pregnant with his kid ffs, what a fucking twat.

He went on in this vein for a while lol then subsided into muttering about blokes not a man if he has to guilt his bird into sex, even after being told that no, I don't actually know you (which mate he thought you were I have no idea) he has taken umbrage on your behalf. I'm really finding it quite sexy tbh.

So there you go. Not a man thing. Not a needs thing. Just a knob thing and he is treating you like shit, tell him to shapeup or ship out, you don't need two kids to look after.

Maybe he's scared that you're feeling a bit depressed? How you feeling about the pregnancy in general? Xx

Wait till the bleedin things here; he'll be lucky to get a shag once a year! Time for him to grow up. Don't do it to please him; he'll have to have a wank and get used to it for a bit.

You don't owe anybody sex, whether they're your husband or not. It's not an obligation. (Coercing somebody into having sex is horrible. And illegal in certain cases). He's perfectly capable of taking care of his own "needs". If he's giving you actual cause to worry about him cheating or making things uncomfortable for you, is this really somebody you want around?

He should be grateful that he is getting it once a week judging by the circumstances.

You need to be prepared for the fact that you are very likely to have even less sex once the baby is born. DD is 6 months and it's probably been about 6 times.. for the first 2 months there was never a point when one of us wasn't holding her!
I think a proper discussion about it with him is in order. Do not beat yourself up about it, your body does not exist for his pleasure.

The thing is we also have a child aready and he runs me ragged im exhausted in general and have health conditions which make me shattered i really dont want him feeling desperate but ive explained a week and sometimes less is actually nothing and i just feel like walking away rather than handling this pressure its to the point every night im so anxious because i know again ill have to let him down then worry what he may do to fulfil his needs its ridiculous