Party...no invite...

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So I have just found out via dreaded Facebook there was a party today and my 3 yo wasn't invited. Most other kids from her nursery class seem to be on the pics. She would be so sad if she knew there had been a party without her. She's a lovely, popular kid. I can't see why she was left out, big venue etc. I can't believe how sad I feel, I hate the thought of her being left out . I want to ask the other mums why, but don't want to create a shit storm. AIBU to feel upset about this?

Yes exactly..they may reference it but it won't be clear it was last weekend or that she missed it I wouldn't think..

We had a 3rd birthday party yesterday and when I mentioned it this morning dd looked totally blank. 3yo party etiquette is clearly what goes on tour stays on tour

I doubt she'll notice. If anyone's upset by these things, it's just the parents.

OP in a few years you'll be breathing a sigh of relief whenever you have a birthday-free weekend! My children are 5 and 7 and they regularly decline party invites because they'd rather spend a fun/quiet day at home. Birthday parties are hell, just be pleased you didn't have to go.

My 3 y o hd one birthday party this weekend and her "best friend" at nursery was invited to 2, both nursery friends but dd wasn't asked to one. I thought nothing of it and tbh dd barely remembered the one she attended. She knew of the other as she heard me mention 'child's name's' party and I explained she wasn't going. No further conversation or drama. Don't let your own insecurities make your dc feel.bad at this age - there's many years to come of social slights throughout school and high school, let them enjoy the time they're unaware!

I genuinely do not understand all this party angst.

We had a party for our (now) 6 year old on Saturday. 1 kid from her class was invited another 3 from another class plus 3 friends from an activity. Plus my friends daughters came. 10 kids plus a toddler is plenty. I didn't give it a second thought. There was no malice in who was invited - why would there be. However, I know these kids and their parents relatively well.

There's 20 kids in my daughters class. That would mean 30 at the party!! We had a limited space and budget. I don't know the other parents

Just be breezy if she mentions it, otherwise you may pass on your own insecurities. Like being cheery at the dentist when you're shaking inside :)

Oh God,don't ask around,you'll look needy & mad!
We are having a party next week for ds. I haven't heard from half the class,I've put messages on our group chat thing,still no further along. I know one or two invitations didn't make it home & they thought they hadn't been invited.

I've just been chased up by a class mum about a party. I'd never received the invite in the first place. Goodness knows what my DD had done with it.

I used to ask the nursery for a list of children the same age as DD. If a child wasn't on the list, they wouldn't get an invite. At the age of 3, I doubt there was any other reason. I wouldn't take it personally as it's not as if the 3 year old selected who should get an invite. They will have all forgotten about it by the next day and your child will never know anything about it.

My friend asked her 3 year old for a list of nursery friends to invite. She wrote out the invitations - some of the names were abit odd - took them to hand in and asked baffled staff which ones these children were. Her Dd had omitted to mention that her friends were actually imaginary!