AIBU to expect there to be some sleep on a sleepover?

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DD has a friend sleeping over. They are 11. i have just come up to bed and they are still totally awake talking and listening to a CD. I have turned it off and told them to be quiet or I will put them in different rooms AIBU? It's not a bloody party, it's a favour to a friend...I hate sleepovers...they have been ok I suppose once I finally managed to shut them up enough for DS to get to sleep but FGS why are they not tired? I bloody am!

If it's a birthday or other fun sleep over we call them 'wake overs' it stops any misconceptions 😁

If, however, it's a favour to a friend or for some other reason one of them needs some sleep for something in particular they need sleep for (other than the general need!) they are told beforehand what time they need to go to sleep by because of xyz. No real problems with that so far. If there were I'd resort to threats 😁😂

No wine? It's your house, do as you please (obviously not getting blind drunk).

Maybe i'm paranoid as my DD has allergies and I'm a first aider but I always feel i need to be alert and sensible.

Feel for you

I think if it's an agreed party sleepover fair enough

If you are doing someone a favour and are not expecting a party then would be irritating

Think lesson is don't offer again unless is specific reason or occasion

I do sleepovers with 20 odd brownies and we expect quiet by about 11 and sleep by midnight. And it generally happens, only the odd time we have to go in and stay there til they're quiet.

Guides (your DDs age) are a different matter and don't settle down until forced. Camping trips of multiple nights are only possible because they're so tired after not sleeping the first night and running around outdoors all day that they're desperate for sleep by bedtime the second night!

I'm glad yours settled down eventually. Maybe next time set a time for quiet talking (no screeching, singing, whatever else they do that makes so much bloody noise!) and a time for silence. Focus on noise level rather than sleep, sleep will follow naturally once they stop talking. I tell my lot I don't care if they sleep or not, as long as they aren't stopping anyone else from sleeping including each other.

I hate them. DH usually ends up going in threatening them with ringing parents, but I'm slightly more tolerant, it is supposed to be a fun event after all.
DS1 (13) went to a sleepover recently and got no sleep whatsoever. They were up on the Xbox all night. I found him mid morning dead to the world on his bedroom floor! The following day is usually a write off.

I had someone here for a sleepover last night.

They were asleep by 10.30, because they had had a sleepover over the visitors house the night before!

Win for me.

I don't often have sleepovers though, but when I do I accept there will not generally be much sleeping going on. I give them treats and snacks and they have the TV and DVD player, they have their devices connected to the internet and they are told that after a certain time the only reason to come out of the bedroom is to go to the toilet or if someone is ill.

They have to keep the noise levels down and be considerate of the other people in the house.

They still could stay awake all night if they wanted though!