I turned 30 last year, and beforehand did the whole 'I don't want a fuss' routine whenever it was mentioned. My mistake. I didn't get a fuss. I was hurriedly bought gift at the last minute, and as we were on an all inclusive holiday for the day itself basically nothing else was done. No cake, or dinner out, or celebrations. I guess I'm a bit upset about it still, even though it was of my doing. I didn't mention it at the time, but did get drunk recently (of course) and had a bit of a cry to him about it.
It's my DH's 30th in a few months. A big celebratory weekend has been planned, which has already cost me several hundred pounds. There will be a cake for everyone (bought by me), champagne for everyone (bought by me), and a huge party. DH has vaguely mentioned a gift as well, and when I have asked him what he wants he has mentioned things costing a few hundred pounds (albeit a little sheepishly and saying he feels uncomfortable with me spending that much on him).
WIBU to not get a 30th birthday gift? This is all combined with him recently just being a little bit of a dick about a few things, which may be swaying my judgement.