AIBU to refuse to let DD get her eyebrows plucked for a dance competition?

[DDDances]

I've namechanged as with my other posts you would know who I was.

DD is only 9, just turned it last week. She attends a dance school where she trains most evenings. She is obsessed. They do normally wear makeup, but as she is performing with 9-11. They are asking the girls to pluck their eyebrows. WIBU to refuse this?

How is plucking eyebrows which grow back, for a one off annual show, worse than permanently piercing a hole in the body for jewelry?

I am not saying I am for it I am saying if everyone else does it for the show I wouldn't refuse it. Why not raise the issue with the dance school for all the children.

If somebody asked you to jump off a bridge, would you do it ?

Free will. Use it.

I would be having words with the people who said that. That's not on. I would wait until your DD herself wants to do it. And then get them done professionally (speaking from experience!)

Because it hurts.
Because she's too young.
Because it sends a dangerous message about the importance of looking a certain way to these young people.
Because they shouldn't be encouraged to do things because "everyone else is doing it"

I wouldn't put holes in my child because dance school told me to either.

I read your thread title and was going to say Yabu, imagining it was a girl of at least secondary age, with either a monobrow or v bushy eyebrows that she felt overly conscious of, and was begging you to let her do them.

But a 9yr old being told to? No fucking way, Yanbu.

Tbh if she wants to, isn't the battle lost (for the time being) already?

My dd has had to remove eyebrow hair since age 8 as the gap between them was so small that she got called unibrow.
Does your dd need her eyebrows done? I don't know many 9 year olds who need it done tbh. If you want her to feel like she's the others remove one or two then tell her they are done.

What sort of dancing does she do that anyone will even notice her eyebrows?

And what if it doesn't grow back the same? I've got a couple of small patches where I was pluck happy way too young (around 10 years old).

Just no.

No. It just reinforces the message to girls that what you can do is less important than how you look while you're doing it.
And fuck that.

peach you are busy on the threads with kind, constructive comments at the moment aren't you?

I would be so sad if my DD aged 9 felt that she needed to change her appearance that much. YANBU

I find some of the make up used by DDs 10yo freinds when dancing somewhat questionable, but of course it's washed off before bed, so although DD tells me she'd never want to look like that, I just tell her that's what her friends like.

No way would I let my 10 yo have her eyebrows plucked. I can see she'll look better with plucked eyebrows in a few years, but have told her if she wants to do anything, come to me first, and I'll take her to a professional. She is not to use my razor, or take tweezers to her eyebrows herself. I speak from bitter experience

But no way would I do anything to my DD on the say so of a dance school. Hair styling/clothes OK. Hair cutting/hair removal/fake tan etc I get the last say on, as her mother.