I have 2 sons who are 17 and 19 and a 15 year old daughter but that's not relevant to this post They both have girlfriends same ages as them who are often over our house.
I got back early this morning from a 2 week holiday. Before I left, a few days before I can back and yesterday when at the airport I asked both my sons if we could have no girlfriends over during the day today so I could spend some time with them alone after being away and also so I didn't have so many people buzzing around when I'm trying to chill out after our long flight. But I said they could come over about 8/9ish after we've had dinner.
Woke up this morning to find younger sons girlfriend here, she'd spent the night and still hasn't gone home. I mentioned to my son that I'd like her to leave soon at about mid day and he said he'd tell her but clearly hasn't.
My older son is also going away on the 11th and I've said I'd like him here the day before he goes if poss, and don't mind if his girlfriend is too as we get on well, he said he would be but my younger son says I'm being pathetic and one day they won't live here and I won't see them for weeks and weeks.
I do understand where he is coming from, they are both old enough to not need to see their mummy everyday and soon they will have moved out. But that's partly the reason k want to spend time with them, soon they will be too busy to see me often. I also don't think it is too unreasonable to ask to spend time as just a family from time to time especially when I've been away or they're going away.
What do others think? AIBU?