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Is this a weird thing to do?

38 replies

DreamCloud99 · 23/06/2016 12:21

I've had a lot of support from my lovely GP for the last 3 months .

She's listened to me no end , talked to me openly about things and been so so kind .

I dropped in a thank you card just expressing my gratitude (nothing personal , just a note saying a huge thank you for all the support ).

My mum thinks it's weird .

Is it?

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ShallNotBeNamed · 23/06/2016 12:23

I don't think so, you see thank you cards in the wards of hospital, I don't see it's any different.. It's nice to show appreciation in my opinion!

Imnotaslimjim · 23/06/2016 12:24

Not weird at all and I'm sure the GP appreciated it

GeekyWombat · 23/06/2016 12:25

I don't think so, but I did the same thing for a trainee GP at our surgery who was incredibly helpful and lovely to me, my DD and DH over a year or so (we're not that sickly!). DH is incredibly suspicious of GPs and is terrible for not listening to them and doing what they say. She was brilliant.

When she left I actually sent her one of those flapjack card things... Which probably makes me worse than you if it IS weird. I just think so many people complain about the NHS, if you get good service I think it's good to redress the balance.

ILostItInTheEarlyNineties · 23/06/2016 12:25

No I think it's a nice gesture and I'm sure she'll appreciate it. Hope you're feeling better.

Nabootique · 23/06/2016 12:28

I think it's nice. People used to send cards for all sorts of things. I feel like it's something that's got left behind a bit, and it's a shame.

Brainwashed · 23/06/2016 12:32

Not weird at all. I'm an ex gp and have kept thank you cards/letters from previous patients.

KingJoffreyLikesJaffaCakes · 23/06/2016 12:36

That's lovely.

I sent our vet a card after she saved my bun.

Sending cards is nice. Receiving cards is nice. Being told you've helped someone and made a difference is really nice.

Everyone does seem full of love today. It's nice.

123beanie · 23/06/2016 12:39

Not weird at all. That's a lovely gesture. Must mean an awful lot to them to be reminded that they are appreciated and are doing a good job.

Mookbark · 23/06/2016 12:39

As a doctor, I can tell you that I love it when I receive cards. Mainly, because it shows that someone appreciates what you have done. However, a pleasant knock on effect is that I can put it in my appraisal folder, so it has a concrete benefit as well.

eggpoacher · 23/06/2016 12:41

No it's not weird, it's a kind and thoughtful thing to do.

Mrsmorton · 23/06/2016 12:44

Why would it be weird? GPs have very difficult and often thankless jobs. You will have made her day.

dizzyfucker · 23/06/2016 12:45

I think it's a nice thing to do. Yes it's a job, but you felt she went further than just her duty and you are showing your thanks. I'm sure she really appreciated it.

I don't see how this is any different to giving the teacher a gift, giving an employee a leaving present or sending the midwives/midwife a card.

WorraLiberty · 23/06/2016 12:48

No it's not weird.

My GP's surgery has lots of thank you cards stuck around the wall behind the counter.

WhatWouldLeslieKnopeDo · 23/06/2016 12:48

Not weird at all.

I had an amazing trainee GP who supported me through a cancer diagnosis. I wrote to the practice manager who added my letter to some sort of "evidence" for her training.

People are always so quick to complain when things aren't perfect, but just seem to take it for granted when someone is helpful. I think it's lovely to make people feel appreciated.

It must be such hard work being a GP, or any healthcare professional, so hopefully it helps a little to know that they are making someone's life a little more bearable.

gonetoseeamanaboutadog · 23/06/2016 12:50

Not at all weird.

DJBaggieSmalls · 23/06/2016 12:53

No its not weird, and my lovely GP is always touched and surprised by expressions of gratitude.

Citizenerased123 · 23/06/2016 12:53

It's a lovely thing to do and not weird at all. It makes my day when a patient takes the time and effort to say thank you and it helps to balance out a lot of the negativity we deal with in the NHS. (And we need to collect thank you cards etc for our appraisals/ revalidation to prove to the GMC that we're doing a decent job)

pigsDOfly · 23/06/2016 12:58

No not weird at all. We all like to have our efforts acknowledged.

I sent my vet a thank you card after he had to put my last cat to sleep.

He was so caring and kind and made a very sad situation more bearable. I couldn't just leave it, I really needed to let him know how much I appreciated his thoughtfulness.

MargaretCavendish · 23/06/2016 13:08

I sent a thank you card for the doctor and nurse who put in my coil! I guess that was even stranger as it was a family planning clinic so I didn't have an ongoing relationship with them but they were both so nice, especially as it turned out to be a much worse procedure than I was expecting.

ElodieS · 23/06/2016 13:13

Not weird at all, it's a lovely thing to do. My BF is a GP and she texted me once a few years ago saying "I got my first thank you card, finally made it as a GP!" and was so thrilled. I'm sure it will be very much appreciated.

Boiledfart · 23/06/2016 13:14

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Mrskeats · 23/06/2016 13:14

Not weird but very thoughtful

KingLooieCatz · 23/06/2016 13:19

I'm sure your GP appreciated it and did not think weird at all.

I got the odd thank you card in my former profession, one where verbal abuse and hate campaigns were more expected. In fact I was on the receiving end of a death threat written in bodily fluid once. I saved all the cards and reading them once in a while on difficult days bucked me up.

The cards were all pinned to the board in my office when the inspectors called. The hugs and thank yous unfortunately cannot be pinned up, although most of them are fondly remembered.

2016Hopeful · 23/06/2016 13:22

Not weird at all! I have yet to see the same GP twice so haven't had much chance to form any relationship where I could send a card. Plus I haven't really had any help either, just feel like they are rushing me and just refer me to someone else. If I did find a lovely GP like you have I would be sending a card too!!!

DreamCloud99 · 23/06/2016 13:26

Maybe my mum is the weird uncaring one Grin

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