Very complicated history. I've posted about my father before. He cheated on my mum and committed bigamy. Didn't pay child support for years and years. Is a compulsive liar. Would constantly forget my birthday growing up then lie about presents being sent to me in the post that would never turn up. Wouldn't see me for months and months at a time (sometimes years) as he lives abroad. Wouldn't call for months. Treated his second wife like shit and was a terrible father to his disabled son. I am now very close to my stepmum and stepbrother. They are divorced too. He would often call on his birthday angry that I hadn't wished him and bullied me into apologising. If I was sensible I would have cut all ties but I couldn't bring myself to do it and would always call when he was sick.
I can't stand him but can't bring myself to confront him. Respect for parents was beat into me as a child and i can't shake it (cultural thing I guess). He has now posted an angry Facebook status saying that nobody wished him a happy Father's Day and that he feels suspended as a father. Cue floods of sympathetic comments.
I'm so upset and raging. I guess a message to him on Father's Day wouldn't have cost me anything as I have tried to be civil over the years but I consider my stepdad to be my father not him as he has been my real dad over the years (in my life since I was 6 and giving me away at my wedding).
Was I unreasonable? a confrontation with my father would be terrible for my mental
Health- I have anxiety and depression. Can I fix this?