Meanness

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I have been on this site for a little bit watching, reading gaining advice etc but one thing that has really put me off posting more is the complete and utter B**chyness of some of the people on here!!!!
We are all human I get that and we are each different!

BUT!
We are all also mums I am not saying that we must agree with 100% what everyone else says, or that we do not have difference of opinions.
however those aside I have seen some incredibly immature responses on here.
For example "aren't you a horrible person"
"Wow you sound ungrateful"
To right down nastyness and picking on someone else's spelling grammar or punctuation.
We are not here to judge one another but support and lately I have seen little of that I have seen however plenty of judgemental people lots of b*tchyness.
And in some cases general cyber bullying
Is this reasonable? I thought we were here with one thing in common?
Motherhood not meanness

MN often makes me wince. People can take their wit, intelligence and honesty and then post some of the nastiest things I have ever seen.

there are some posters, some boards, and some groups that you don't fuck with - or rather don't even try and disagree with them. As the vitriol you can get back can take your breath away.

my only solace is some of the people posting after both an upsetting troll incident and the Jo Cox murder made me realise there are some kind hearted people on here that share my values.

and there are some people ingeniousidiot is a classic example who will just quickly type a rather harsh reply without even contemplating that there might be a human being on the receiving end. who fucking cares right, post like a netmummy cunt and die by the MN sword isn't it?

I am not a mum, so perhaps that means I can be mean?

MN posters are as varied as people everywhere. Some are lovely, some are twisted cockwombles. Most are somewhere in between

MNHQ are pretty good at moderating things - but they will only know about things if you hit report. And if you think people are being nasty, call them out on it.

Unfortunately, there are those who take any form of robust disagreement or difference of opinion as nastiness. But I'm sure you're not one of those silly people, OP

I agree with this i hate the nastiness you see wrapped up as honesty or whatever like cutting somebody down is something to be proud of it just shows the poster up as a twat though

Well yabu in thinking it's just 'mums' that use this site. All types of people use this site, both male and female, from all age groups and differing backgrounds.
Yes some of the comments/replies can be unduly harsh. But if those comments come across like that then there will usually be someone that will speak up and say so. But having said that, sometimes if someone 'is' being an arse but wants to be told that they are not then why shouldn't someone respond "yes you are being an arse"?

Also if someone is saying something you don't like you can pull them up on it/report/ignore.
There are some posters that will wade in and try to gage a reaction no matter what the subject is, they do it because they can. I ignore those posters and can't be bothered to get worked up about it
No Its not all fluffy pink kittens and sparkly rainbows here, We don't censor words and It's actually ok to say "Fuck Off!"
That's why I like it!
But you do need to develop a thicker skin sometimes.

You've been reading for ages but haven't realised you can swear?
And as others have said, not everyone here is a mum.

Sorry, not ages, a little bit.

I have been reading and I believe I have posted once.
The swearing is just my own personal preference.
I completely see that not everyone here is a parent and that males and females use this site.
But some of you are right the rudeness of people is uncalled for.
But most of the answers here today have answered my question that i am Not being unreasonable to think keyboard warriors and hasty comments are here say it is a smg

Oh god yes, the spelling correctors just come across to me as very lonely people. A bit like the teacher or child no-one liked at school.

I'm pretty sure there will be people in need of MN help, who won't post because of it.

That's quite sad really. It's just a chat forum and as long as people can read what they're saying, they should be able to post without that sort of shit.

Auto correct what I meant to say is nasty comments and general being mean are here to stay even on a site designed not to judge but to support quite sad really

Shit happens here and on Netmums.

Sometimes people post with an AIBU type thing and yes they are and when they are told that up goes the cry of 'bulllying' seen it on all forums.
If you dont want the truth then dont ask!

Yes sometimes people go ott just to get a reaction and usually someone will pull them up on it or report it, it happens on all sites.

We are all adults and are entitled to debate or disagree with things, ignore the goady people (who maybe may not even believe what they are saying just want a wind up) and concentrate on your own arguments about the original thread.

The support forums are just that, supportive. The chat and aibu stuff is open for debate and argument as well as support. If you dont like something report it or dont join in, simples.

And btw it gets heated on occaision on NM too and threads/posts are deleted, but although I like it on the whole I get p'd off when the people calling out the liars i.e posting the opposite of what they said yesterday and talking out thier arse, get deleted as the cry of 'bullying' goes up when its not at all. If you cant remember your story right then dont complain when you are caught out!

If you dont like MN then leave, its not compulsory but give it time, it can be rude, angry, aggressive and also very supportive but also downright hilarious and a real tonic.

Well if you think something breaks talk guidelines, report. That's what the report button is there for. No need to start a thread about not liking it.

I will never understand that. Why start a thread to say you don't like mumsnet on mumsnet? If you feel that strongly there are plenty of other sites you can use.

I will never understand that. Why start a thread to say you don't like mumsnet on mumsnet? If you feel that strongly there are plenty of other sites you can use.

It's because they're bored or think that it's witty and controversial or sadly think they're being original - hence my 'harsh reply' of earlier. Why waste everyone's time? I'm on hold again - no time of mine was wasted in replying to this.

Or maybe they've heard from another website how horrible it is here, and just want to corroborate it

As far as I can see, there is only a pile in when someone posts something incredibly unreasonable (usually a troll) and then each individual posts to give their robust opinion with no regard for the effect of that on masse, and tbf, I don't see they should have to.

The good thing about mn is that if someone is responding in a mean, goading way just for the sport of it, there will be a group of mnetters around to hand them their ass within minutes. (And then everyone's post gets deleted)

People who correct spelling and grammar mistakes are cunts who inflate their own egos by crushing others for sport.

I think these posts are almost to inflate the ego of the OP in a "I'm so very much better than you" way, look at me with my string moral fibre and how I like to make MN seem like an awful place.

Even the OP follow up posts are of the same elk with the standard bit of back tracking of course.

OP you started this discussion the least you could do IMO is partake in it.