I'm playing a big part in a wedding later on in the year. I'm also heavily pregnant currently. I have obviously been invited to the hen night which is roughly 1 month after my due date, but I've mentioned that it's too close to my due date to be able go. I don't want to commit to going on this night out because I know I just won't WANT to go. It's out of town, hubby has also been invited to the stag which is on the same night. He too has said he doesn't want to go incase of a emergency , he wouldn't be able get home due to the location. Both keep being mithered as we "should be there" but they can't seem to grasp that we will have a tiny new baby to think of and look after and we just don't feel comfortable asking for a baby sitter so early on. Other factors I could go over, could end up having a cs who knows? Are we out of order for not going? Because we are now being made to feel terrible about what we have said. All their friends have commented on how we should be making the effort to be there and that we knew about the wedding before getting pregnant. Yes we did ... but that doesn't stop us being involved in the wedding day at all. We have tried suggesting that the 4 of us go for a meal another night instead so we can be home at a reasonable time and we won't be drunk etc but that isn't good enough.