AIBU or have am i losing my mind?

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H and I split last year, started seeing another guy earlier this year, nothing that serious but is starting to get that way.

He is lovely in all way but he likes to drink, sometimes 2-3 times a week as in to get drunk, sometimes more. Any way this has really been getting to me and im not sure why but im finding it upsetting, for example we had words on Sunday night about it, all was fine, he sais he understood, but when I left his he went to the shop for lager?

Its probably me losing my mind but its really annoying me. Now he tries to hide the fact he's been drinking as he knows it will upset me yet still does it, is this worth trying to work through or do I just need to take a chill pill!!

That's your biggest problems right there OP,you've said you can try and work on it or you can take a chill pill,there are 3 options you know?You can leave!It's still very early on in the relationship and leaving is just what me and many others would do.

You said he's started hiding the fact that he's been drinking,you know that's one of the biggest signs of someone having a problem with alcohol right and like others have said you can't change someones behaviour no matter how much you want to,any change has to come from them,for them and it has to be they're choice.

Walking away before the relationship gets really serious OP would be the kindest thing you could do for yourself.

My DH has been like this since I met him, I think the reason I find it upsetting is because it feels like it has the potential to split us up if it were to get worse. So that compounded by the fact he obviously doesn't take it as seriously/doesn't stop, after years it has caused me no end of anxiety.

Fwiw my DH is now for the first time tackling the issues, but this has only come about even after endless tearful conversations because he now wants to stop for himself. I'd suggest you move on.

He has a drink problem if it's causing a problem for those around him. And it is causing a problem for you. He can drink all he wants but don't stay around to see it. Find someone who is more suited to your idea of normal as this is only going to stress you and cause strife. He has a choice but so have you.