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to knock neighbour's door at 2am

75 replies

DecaffCoffeeAndRollupsPlease · 14/06/2016 02:21

To ask them to stop their dog from barking?

It's a big American bulldog (I've been told) and it's bark is so loud.

It was going off on one from 11.30-11.50pm, which was just as my sleeping tablets were starting to work. They only make me drowsy once, so being kept awake in that window is frustrating.

Dog starts up again at 2. I put onsie on and knocked but... Seems like she can sleep through it.

Was it unreasonable to knock in those circs? I'd never normally knock on anyone's door after 9pm unless specifically invited to.

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lalalalyra · 14/06/2016 02:33

Not unreasonable. I'd knock again tomorrow and speak to them. That's a quite unacceptable time for a dog to be creating.

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 14/06/2016 02:34

You don't make your post very clear. Do you mean you knocked and didn't get an answer and youve came to the conclusion. She can sleep. If so. She may have got scared hearing the knock. Even though you did have valid reasons. Nothing worse than not being able to sleep. It's a nightmare. However if I got a knock at that hour. I'd literally shit myself.
Or did it happen that way. Where by did you knock have words about the dog and did she say. "Well I can sleep. If so she's bang out of line. She might be able to sleep, but she's not on sleeping tablets.

WiddlinDiddlin · 14/06/2016 05:57

If i were on my own I wouldn't have opened the door at 2am - also, that would have made my dogs go NUTS and they would then have taken bloody ages to settle down again, so it really wouldn't have helped you.

I would have waited (fuming!) to speak to her in normal waking hours about the dogs barking, if in fact it is unreasonable noise.

StealthPolarBear · 14/06/2016 06:00

You wouldn't be scared about someone knocking at 2pm if your household was making a load of noise though surely

StealthPolarBear · 14/06/2016 06:01

Widd dog was already nuts

Schwabischeweihnachtskanne · 14/06/2016 06:11

Not unreasonable of you to knock as her dog was already so loud at that exact time.

Not unreasonable of her not to answer the door at 2 am - I suspect lots of people wouldn't. Especially if she is used to the dog and was sleeping it might not have been blindingly obvious to her as it was to you that it must be a neighbour about the barking, and if she was half asleep and the bog is an infuriating antisocially loud big softy she would have possibly been scared.

Go around in the day time though - that noise is totally unacceptable at 2 am and she needs to deal with it. Be polite and friendly and take the approach that she will be nice and helpful (don't be confrontational but do be firm if she tries to brush you off) and hopefully it should go well.

Good luck!

WannaBe · 14/06/2016 06:12

I wouldn't open the door at 2 AM. And depending on how often the dog barks at that hour I might assume it was barking because of someone outside iyswim hence why I wouldn't answer the door.

If this is a regular occurrence though I would definitely go round and have a word during the day. If a one off though I would put it down to these things happen.

Schwabischeweihnachtskanne · 14/06/2016 06:13

Actually maybe she didn't hear the knock over the sound of the dog barking Shock

Schwabischeweihnachtskanne · 14/06/2016 06:15

If someone knocked on my door at 2 am I most certainly would open it as I'd assume it was the police with awful news or that the house was on fire...

But I appreciate that would not be the same living somewhere with a higher crime rate!

BoosMum11 · 14/06/2016 06:21

Maybe the dog was home alone.

coolaschmoola · 14/06/2016 06:22

If the dog was barking and she didn't answer the door perhaps she wasn't there?

My old ndn dog used to bark through the night when she was at work (hospital worker on shifts). To top it off it would sit on her bed and do it so it was just the other side of the wall to me. She didn't believe me, which is a whole other level of rage!

DecaffCoffeeAndRollupsPlease · 14/06/2016 06:41

It wasn't a one off. This dog barks endlessly. Sometimes at the wind, always at the postman, everytime we (terrace) open our front doors, walk up or down the road.

It's kept outside and never walked. I've seen it taken out once, in say four months. I would suggest it's just vocal about its loneliness but unfortunately know that it's aggressive too as it went for and got at an elderly dog through their adjoining hedge (since reinforced). But that dog now shakes with fear about going out to pee in back garden.

The owner has a baby so I understand not wanting this huge aggressive ex guard dog (from a mechanics garage who passed it on to her) in the house too often.

I once counted 11 straight mornings in a row that it woke me up barking at 2am, which prompted me to make an official complaint to ha and environmental health. She's had so many complaints that she's at risk of loosing the house. I don't want to add to that if I don't have to as homelessness is a horror I wouldn't wish on my worst enemy, let alone single parent with baby.

I'll see if she's amiable to a chat if I knock at a more sociable hour...

I was thinking spitefully when I knocked this morning, thinking if I have to be awake you should too. Not very rational I know. Not proudest moment either, but my knocks were nowhere near as loud as the dog so maybe she can sleep through it?

It's barking now, not constantly but, often enough for me to notice. Sigh

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DecaffCoffeeAndRollupsPlease · 14/06/2016 07:06

I have some sympathy. My friend was a nurse on the other side of coalas situation. A combination of various friends popping in on the dog, and training it to feel secure that she was coming back stopped the problem.

I don't know what solution would work here, the dog is lonely and probably not safe in the house with the baby. So what can she do, apart from rehome it?

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chocolateworshipper · 14/06/2016 07:08

We had something similar a few years ago. We phoned the council and they monitored the situation and then forced the owner to take action. Good luck

NavyAndWhite · 14/06/2016 07:15

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Mamadothehump · 14/06/2016 07:18

Any dog can be aggressive navy.

Op, I would suggest giving the rspca a call and go from there. Good luck!

hownottofuckup · 14/06/2016 07:24

American Bulldogs are not aggressive

Any dog can be aggressive.

hownottofuckup · 14/06/2016 07:24

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Miloarmadillo1 · 14/06/2016 07:31

If the dog has food, water and shelter the RSPCA won't do anything, despite the fact that having no exercise and being left alone a lot is a clear breach of it's behavioural welfare requirements.
I would keep complaining to HA and environmental health if she is not receptive to your 'chat'. It sounds like rehoming the dog would be best for all concerned.

LaGattaNera · 14/06/2016 07:36

In similar situation with a neighbour. Barks at everything and anything and impossible for me to even be in my garden and get nowhere when speaking to my neighbour.
If your neighbour's dog is kept outside then she won't be able to stop it barking 2am. She shouldn't have the dog in the first place. That's the problem - you can speak to her but the dog will carry on barking as long as it is kept in those conditions.

NavyAndWhite · 14/06/2016 07:37

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Skittlesss · 14/06/2016 07:41

Keep a record and then call the council to report it if you're not getting any response from her.

Good luck. I have reported one of my neighbours twice and she is still not stopping her dog barking at stupid o'clock.

shazzarooney999 · 14/06/2016 08:01

Drives me nuts, we have one over the back that howls for hours on end.

TwatbadgingCuntfuckery · 14/06/2016 08:21

The owner should not be owning the dog if she is fearful of it attacking her baby.

she needs to pass the dog on to a person trained to deal with aggressive and anxious dogs.

I would ask the RSPCA for advice - they are great with giving advice about animals too not just taking them away - and talk to environmental health about the noise.

I would also record the noise on your phone, OP, every time it happens so you can prove it in the first instance which will help speed up a resolution

ohtheholidays · 14/06/2016 08:26

I don't blame you OP,I'd go round and knock during the day today and tell her just how bad it is.Tell her about the 11 nights in a row her Dog has woken you up.

No one should have to put up with that and the lifestyle doesn't sound fair on that poor Dog at all.

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