To wonder is it really over?

[Amy214]

Me and dds paternal gran/dad (she was talking on behalf of him) got into a 'disagreement' about contact. Dds dad was barely involved in her life and seen her once every now and then, didn't buy her any birthday, xmas gifts etc..
They wouldn't agree to mediation and couldn't agree to supervised visits once a week and slowly building up to overnight stays, all i was asking for was a bit of consistency from him (that was it!)
He still pays child maintenence every week.
He hasn't tried to cancel payments (as far as i know)
I am worried about them going to court for access but surely it would've happened by now? (its been over a month now)
Is it really over now?
Can we finally move on with our lives?

I wouldn't worry, it doesn't sound from what you've said that they will be in anyway motivated to go to court. If they do what will they achieve? I don't have a crystal ball any more than you have but think of it in terms of likelihood (cost, hassle, ability to pull a claim together). Not likely!

Carry on with your life and make your DD happy. Good riddance to bad crap.

As GPs, not parents, I'd have thought they wouldn't get very far in court having turned down mediation and weekly visits - many GPs don't get a visit every single week when they have a very close relationship with their GC's parents.

I think you should stick to your guns and tell them no dice if they try to pick up where they left off - god knows what poison they'd try to fill your kid's head with if they got their way. If their son were a better dad, they could see your DD when he had her, couldn't they?

Going to stick to my guns and tell them no way if they try to get involved again! Me and dd are much happier without the stress. She's started coming out of her shell and isn't so nervous in new places/seeing new people. Its really great seeing her improve!