AIBU for being cross at my DM for wanting to know where i was at 9.30am this morning?

[blueskyinmarch]

I actually know i am BU but i am weary and she gave me the rage.

DH, DD2 and i were away at the weekend DPs had our dog. They love the dog and look after her gladly. Our flight home was due in just after 6 last night and we planned to go and collect the dog on the way home. However a combination of a flight delay then massive thunder storms meant we were massively delayed. Got a message to her that we would be very, very late and would she keep the dog. We would collect her the next day (toys). She said that would be fine. Eventually got home and into bed at past midnight.

This morning i slept later (no work) got up about 8ish, had a cup of tea/breakfast and went for a shower just after 9. I know my DP’s routine. They breakfast at 8.15 and walk the dog at 9. I thought i would call after my shower to make arrangements to collect the dog.

Got out of shower to find a message from DM on my mobile and on the house phone (this call woke DD2) wanting to know where we were and what was going on. Then got a text from DD1 (who lives 400 miles away) saying i was to phone gran!

When i called her (still damp and not dressed from the shower) she was all arsey with me saying ’ooh diddums’ about waking DD2 and me being in the shower. She knew we were going to be late why did she need to phone everyone at just after 9. Did she really think we would be on her doorstep (30 minutes drive away) at the crack of dawn after getting home late?

I know i am BU but i am TIRED and i am GRUMPY. I don’t need my DM leaving phone messages for m when i am still trying to wake myself up. And why call DD1? What would she know living 400 miles away!

she should account for jetlag but maybe misunderstood u last night when u said you would be round

Lol at jetlag. We were flying from London to Scotland!

Thing is last night i didn’t speak to her directly. I text my DD1 who called her as i wasn’t sure i could use my phone to call when on the plane and didn’t want to get into trouble!

Tbh we didn’t even mention it once i arrived. I think she realised she had been bit ott and i certainly wasn’t going to mention it. We get on well generally. All fine now.

Glad it's all sorted, but fwiw I think your dm was being VU! 9am for God's sake?! I'd have expected you around 11, and certainly wouldn't have even considered ringing you before about 10.30!

I accepted from the outset I was BU

Oh OP, don't you know how AIBU works? You need to come on quite clearly being unreasonable, everyone piles on to say YABU, you argue back that you definitely definitely are not.

Being reasonable like this is really not playing by the rules!

How old is DD2? I mean if DD1 is old enough to live 400 miles away then likely DD2 is old enough to suck up being woken up at 8am in the morning or if she's anything like my 19 yr old just rolling over and going back to sleep

I am sorry queenbean. I really need to learn to play by the rules.

DD2 is 18 so she could have gone back to sleep but instead I very unreasonably went in and had a moan to her then made her get up and come with me to get the dog. For this I treated her to a nice takeout sandwich for lunch.

So you are not even going to go nc with mum?

Tut

Had to giggle at the thought of jetlag London to Scotland😂😂