Aibu 9 year olds bed time

[Pocketrocket31]

I send my 9 year old to his room between 7 and half past, he then gets 1 hour to watch to, read, chill etc.

Tonight he's had a absolute fit, more than the usual "I'm not tired yet" says all his friends get to stay up till 10, on a school night! He hates me and all that 😁
The fact there is kids still playing in the street doesn't help the situation.

Aibu... Is that too early? What time do your kids go to bed?

My 9 & 10 yr olds are sent to their rooms at 8.15/30pm and lights off at 9pm......school nights that is.

Weekends it's more like 10pm lights out.....especially as so light and warm.

DD is 9.5, goes to bed around 8-8.30. Invariably lights out is more like 9 but the theory is 8.30!

Yours does seem quite early.

Forgot to say I have to wake them at 6.45am and never wake them at weekends....normally up by 8/8.30

My ds9 goes to bed 8.45ish school nights. He reads for a bit then lights out just after 9pm.

On school holidays and weekends it can be as late as 10pm.

Just 9, lights off at 8pm (weekends are a little more flexible). He seems to need 11 hours sleep. His 12 year old sister has her light off by 9.

My ds is always up for 6, even at weekend. He doesn't have a bed time at all at weekends tho.
He likes a hour on his iPad, watchin YouTube or a movie

Ds3 (9) goes up at 9-930, shower and teeth then bed 9:30-10:00. He needs to be up at 7:30 because we do piano practice before school and I never have to wake him. His older brothers (now 20 & 18) went earlier at that age but they needed more sleep. I think it depends on the child.

Very varied bedtimes, good to know I'm not the only strict mum lol

My 9yr old is given the choice of going up at 8.30 and going straight to bed, no reading etc, or going up earlier and having time to faff around/read/draw. She always chooses to go up at half eight and straight to bed.

She does not get up easily in the am but doesn't need to be up until 7.45/7.50 so she is currently bargaining for a later bedtime. Still undecided on that one.

Mine often goes up between 7 and 7.30.. and reads till about 8 to 8.15..

He does activites 3 nights a week which mean those nights it is closer to 8.30 to 9.

It depends on the child how well they settle

As for all my friends..Strangely we never hear..My friend gets less pocket money, my mate goes to bed earlier than me..So I treat all comments with a pinch of salt..Head tilts often work too.

7pm does seem to be very early for a 9 year old, but I suppose it's reasonable if he's up at 6am. Does he get up then because you need him to, or because he's had enough sleep?

My 10 year old goes to bed about 9, with a short read, although after scouts she's not in bed until about 9.45. But then she doesn't need to get up until 7.30am, and sometimes I have to wake her then.

My 9yo likes to potter and chat with us after 7 when my little ones have gone to bed.

In theory she goes to her room to read/colour etc from around 7:45 then lights out around 8:30 but it's usually it's more like 9. I'm ok with that as she's usually awake for 7/7:30 so I feel she's getting enough sleep.

My DGD is 9.5 years old. Her official bedtime is 8pm,with another hour for reading or watching TV. She is SUPPOSED to go straight to sleep after that. But in reality it is usually nearer 11pm by the time she falls asleep. She has to be up at quarter to 8 on school days and thankfully she does get up without any difficulty. She drives her mum (my DD) mad with her sleep refusal. My theory is that she is a bright child,very nosy interested in everything,and is scared she will miss something wildly exciting if she falls asleep. Her mum was the same at that age!

Maybe an hour of TV is stimulating him too much. I'd maybe try sending to bed at 8, asleep at 8.30.

My just turned 8 year old goes at 8, and is sleeping for half past, but she takes melatonin at bedtime, as she struggles to sleep otherwise. She is finally sleeping through the night more often that not hurray!

DS is 8 and is in bed for 7.30. We have to be up at 6.30. I can't imagine how tired and difficult he would be if bedtime was any later.

Last night he was desperate to watch England so we let him stay up. He'd fallen asleep not 20 minutes into the match despite being reslly excited!

My youngest goes at 8:30 and my 8yo goes up at about 9 ish. They don't get up until 7:30 for school though. If your ds needs that much sleep then yanbu. If he's lying awake/waking early then I would move it later. People don't all need the same amount of sleep.