Letting my child play whilst I lie in?

[justforthisonce]

My dd is 7, once a week I lay out her breakfast and she gets up and plays whilst I lie in a bit. I am a lone parent. My parents both did this with me and my sibling. My dd loves it as she gets to play uninterrupted in her room, something she doesn't get a great deal of time to do with school and activities and she feels grown up getting breakfast.

Her bedroom is right next to mine so she is not far from me at all

It's good for my mental health . She gets up at 6 every day. I have a slight feeling of guilt though when I do it and wonder if it is the wrong thing to do . What do you do with your kids? Aibu?

YANBU - my 7 year old also gets up at the crack of dawn. I tell her to go and play in her room for a while.

DP and I had a lie in until 8.30. Both kids were in the sitting room (which is on the same floor as our bedroom) they pottered in and out.

That's a great idea and I bet your little girl likes the independence too .

That's great! By 5 at least they should be able to get themselves cereal (not sure I'd trust with toaster) and water, juice etc... And amuse themselves.

I agree with others who say it makes them feel grown up and they get time alone.

My brother and I were doing this I think from 5-6 onwards.

like previous poster said, I long for the day I can do this. One thing to watch for is cleaning products, toiletries etc, my babe is too little at mo but once they're not i'm going to make sure all those kinds of things are locked up or something, so they can't drink them/mix and inhale vapours or whatever whilst i'm dozing, cos I doze heavy!
ROSPA probably have good advice about child proofing a home

I used to do this with my DS from when he was 3, although I'd make his breakfast for him and wait til he'd eaten it at that age, before heading back to bed. He's 13 now and often has a longer lie-in than I do, and I rarely get up before 10.30 at weekends.

She's 7!

Of course you are not BU!

I thought from the title she'd be 3 or 4, in which case it would perhaps be boarderline, but there is no question at all in my mind that you shouldn't even question yourself as she's 7 and she loves it (unless perhaps you are lying in until lunch time...).

Our kids get up by themselves and make their own breakfast at weekends too - I honestly can't remember when they started, as there are 3 of them so it is a bit different (the eldest couldn't be expected to look after the youngest when she was 6 or 7, but would have been fully capable of sorting herself out... because of the youngest I think I was still getting up when she was 7).

Certainly now they have a rule that they are not allowed to get up til 7am at weekends, and at 7am they go down and get their own breakfast and are then allowed screens til we get up - DH is usually up by 9:30... I work weeekends with a very early start twice a month so am gone before they get up, but on my weekends off often stay in bed til 10 and then have a longer than usual shower, so am not down til 10:30 if we are having a home day or no plans til afternoon). Ours are aged between 5 and 11.

I've done just this today.

I slumber rather than go into deep sleep, it's kind of like that new born sleep, re-charging but still in high alert.

Has to be said I'm up before 6 every week day and she other 2 DC are up and about around 6.30 so 8 is a lie in for her too.

No guilt here, just a happy, rested mummy.