Please don't be mean. I'm knackered and emotional.
DD has caught a horrendous sickness bug which obviously came on just as we were going to bed (why do they always do that?!) And bless her little heart she was really bad but really brave. I sat up with her almost all night (a quick reminder of the newborn constant feeding stage and left me wondering how I functioned back then) worried about her and how DP and I were going to arrange time off to look after her. Obviously no childminder today.
So finally, my point. I called DM to ask if she was working today (irregular working days) and she asked why. I said DD had been really sick. Her reply was "yes I'm working today. I've been up since x doing x and y happened yesterday meaning z might happen today. non stop detailed rant of days plans. So I'll speak to you later. OK? " this was about a 5 minute conversation. She literally had no concern about how DD was. How badshe had been. Was she going to be ok. Just proceeded to talk about her.
Aibu to tell her she was out of order or just forget about it but remember she is selfish?
So as not to drip feed. We have been close... im drifting off a bit as she has form for tgis type of behaviour. Live quite far away so She always talks about being the left out grandma but doesn't really ask about DD or pay much attention to her when with her.