To be paranoid this was a dare?

[Sarahndipity]

A couple of nights ago I went to a friend of a friend's university town for a party. For context they are all midway through university (20/21?) and I'm 24, so a bit older. A few of the boys there were flirting a bit but I put it down to alcohol and me being a new face I'm not attractive at all

Anyway one guy who I thought was very good-looking and I were chatting on and off throughout the course of the evening, culminating in him inviting me back to his shared house... He was drunk...

I can't shake off the feeling now that it was some kind of dare and he doesn't find me attractive at all?! The whole older woman thing?? Trying to impress his friends by getting with someone older? Urgh

I was 24 and working at a Uni when I met DH, who was 20.
We're celebrating our 20th Wedding Anniversary this year!

YABU

Stop over thinking it. You got a good shag out of it (hopefully!).

Onwards and upwards - who cares what he thought either way?

As others have already pointed out, seeking validation and/or fishing for compliments is generally unattractive and never portrays anybody, male or female, in a good light.

No, I don't think it's a compliment when men egg each other on and it's not very respectful either. No wonder you're unsure about what the encounter meant to him. The important thing though is what it meant to you. You haven't mentioned much about that.

Maybe it was a 'dare', maybe it wasn't? You'll probably never know but I imagine it leaves a bad taste in your mouth thinking that it might have been. If you feel bad about what happened then it's obviously not the right thing for you and not the right format for sex. Flings are suitable for some women and not others.

Stop seeking input from others as to how YOU should feel because you're the one who has all the answers.

Did you actually go back to the bloke's house, OP? I don't get the impression you did (nothing wrong with that, either way).

What a lot of worry about nothing!

Self doubt isn;t attactive. Confidence is. Be you, enjoy it.

Yes I did go back to his house but we were both too drunk for anything too happen He wanted me to stay over though and was complimentary about how I looked etc. I think I'm being silly...

Well, he sounds reasonably gentlemanly.

It's come to a sad pass though when 24 year olds think they're old enough to be the subject of some Grab a Granny bet.

I thought my now DP was having me on too don't sweat it!

It's ok, I get it. My OH is 12 years younger than me and it took him 3 months to convince me to go on a date with him because I thought he was taking the piss and could never be attracted to me properly! But he wasn't and he is, saggy boobs and post c section tummy and all. The fucking weirdo.