Please help me write a text which doesn't sound rude

[mizuzu]

Some of you may remember a thread I posted regarding my mums will and her jewellery which still hasn't been settled due to my aunty delaying it.
Some suggested on here she has sold it already and me and my friend were having a conversation and I believe she has.

My mum died over a year ago, her jewellery was worth around 30-40k

Me and my sister and my mums partner are proof that it existed

My brother lives with my aunty and she sides with him a lot.

Every text I write to her sounds rude which is probably because I'm paranoid due to the conversation I just had.

How do I say this nicely? I am willingredients to driver her to Hatton garden myself

Kit that is great advice thank u

Texts, phone calls. Really? For that amount (and even less actually) GET A LAWYER.

You really are better calling her than getting into a fruitless text exchange, but Kit's advice is great - do your homework first.

I think you need to speak with her either on the phone or face to face and ask her plainly to explain what has happened to the items/money. If you are satisfied with her explanation, fine. if you are not satisfied then you must seek legal advice. And tell her that you will be doing that.

I have a history of blowing up and accusing people of things when I'm wrong so I'm trying to change but this it just seems obvious

This sticks out for me.

Just because something may seem obvious it doesn't mean that it is right.

DON'T contact your aunt.

Seriously, i CANNOT stress this enough. Let your solicitor do it for you.

And bear in mind that it's not unusual for things to be tied up in probate for a year or more.

Also, bear in mind that any creditors will be paid first as a priority before beneficiaries.

But honestly, let your solicitor do it.

Aunty is executor and mums partner... He doesn't want to get involved though really

He doesn't have any choice. If he is an executor, he has a legal duty to get involved, unless he has renounced the role.

Kit gives good advice, I hope you manage to get it sorted out

Mum's partner even said he thinks she sold it. He doesn't want to get involved though really

Well he's in BIG trouble if she has because he had dual responsibility for the distribution of the estate. Blimey I wouldn't want to be in his shoes, the useless twat.

If the jewellery is worth that much it should have been valued and included in the estate.

You can go on-line and pay £10 and get details of your mother's estate when probate is granted.

You need to get a solicitor. Let them deal with it.