To think FIL should just shut up

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We live in a first floor flat. Our shower has been leaking into the flat below and this evening their ceiling came down. I was on the phone sorting something else out, so DP said he'd contact the landlord. I heard him in the other room, talking for a good 15 minutes, assuming he was sorting it out. Turns out he was speaking to FIL (trying to quickly return a missed call and arrange a better time to chat). Apparently he told him 'Sorry dad, now is not a good time, the ceiling downstairs has just fallen down' and FIL just kept on boring him to death talking.

Wow your neighbours must be livid!

Your DP should not have returned the call. What a numpty!

How long has the shower been leaking that the ceiling came down?! That should have been sorted immediately. As a landlord, if I were notified, I'd have the contractor out the next day.

I'd be cross with DP, not FIL, for not ending the conversation earlier either by being firm or just hanging up.

Your DP is an adult. He should've been more forceful and told FIL he had to go.

YABU.

Dp not fil is at fault.

This isn't FIL's fault. Your DP knew he was a talker when he chose to ring him rather than deal with the ceiling.

DP was a pillock I'm afraid.

Ok Ok everyone, I know it wasn't the best call on DP's behalf pun intended but he thought that even FIL would realise that a collapsed ceiling warrants shutting up. Announces massive drip feed relations with FIL are difficult at the best of times, he gets very funny about phone calls and we're trying to keep relations good.

Re ceiling: it seemed like a simple, minor leak. Landlord came straightaway, had it fixed, it seemed fine for a few days. Then it started again, landlord sent someone round, we were following instructions to limit the damage. Tonight downstairs neighbour complained about it getting worse and as DP and neighbour were looking at it the whole thing collapsed. Neither landlord nor handyman are professionals, obviously.

BTW - how does someone 'being like that' excuse them for being stupid??

WTF? God Almighty! Your 'DP' is an utter pillock.. I hope that karma comes calling soon :)

I was in a rented house for a while, so the leak in the loft was no ones fault as such, it is shocking to see how much damage a water leakage can cause in such a short time.

Can we all please stop calling my DP names? And anyway, it turns out he had already called the landlord. I can assure you FIL is the pillock here! I have posted about him before (probably under a different name), but how he behaves towards DP and me can be considered bullying when he's on form but that's a whole other thread.

You posted on AIBU and then thoroughly drip fed OP. I'm not sure what else you expected to happen!

No, your DP is the pillock for returning the call at that moment.

If someone called me and told me their ceiling downstairs had fallen down, I wouldn't assume it was that bad a time to talk because why would they ring if they were in the middle of an emergency!

Less of a drip feed and more of a deluge (sorry couldn't resist)

Water pain in the arse you FIL sounds

Why did your dp not just ring back when it was a better time. He is the one at fault here.

Alright, keep the jokes coming

I think you're going to have to pool your resources and get it fixed

Drip feed read and acknowledged....no, it's still your DP's fault. Why would he return the call before addressing a collasped ceiling? You call the landlord then you ring your FIL back. Your DP was daft and your FIL was not doing anything wrong. If someone has bothered to ring you then you would assume it was ok to actually chat to them otherwise why would they ring!

Tell your do not to be so wet

"Neither landlord nor handyman are professionals, obviously."

Nightmare. I have had landlords like this. "I'll come and have a look...." ("Oh god"). I remember dashing up the stairs at the speed of light to close newborn dd's bedroom window, the summer evening LL came round with a half full can of Asda fly spray, stood on a chair, and started spraying the wasps's nest just underneath the open bedroom window.