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To ask you to tell me your favourite wedding readings?

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BlueRaptor · 05/06/2016 11:52

DP and I get married early next year and wanted to involve my uncle somehow and thought having him do a reading was a good way of this. Only thing is we can't really find anything we love! We're getting married at a venue by the local registrars do nothing religious allowed but no other rules I know of.

Anyone want to share ones they used/heard and loved?

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ElodieS · 05/06/2016 14:15

My DSis chose this one to read and I loved it:

Gathering

Here, in our best bib and tucker we flock, 
Drawn from all the hell over, iron filings to a magnet, 
An intricate pattern, a one-time convergence
Of friends and relations, a living mandala;

Young and old, nephews and nieces,
Sisters and brothers, parents, grandfather,
And all those others you got to choose for yourselves
Agglomerating to hold you in the centre.


Slow in coming, swift in passing, this day
Slow but long-lasting the major choice confirmed, 
Hardly inevitable, yet falling into place
As though it were just what we always expected.

So we join, as you join,
In celebrating love – yours for each other of course
Ours, as you must know, for you – circling,
Cherishing, blessing, releasing
Love, the core of all.

^William H Matchett.
^

happyis · 05/06/2016 14:18

Love is a temporary madness. It erupts like an earthquake and then subsides. And when it subsides you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots have become so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is. Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the promulgation of promises of eternal passion. That is just being "in love" which any of us can convince ourselves we are. Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away, and this is both an art and a fortunate accident. Your mother and I had it, we had roots that grew towards each other underground, and when all the pretty blossom had fallen from our branches we found that we were one tree and not two.”
― Louis de Bernières, Corelli's Mandolin

almapudden · 05/06/2016 14:33

The Spenser is fantastic

MadameDePomPom · 05/06/2016 14:35

That Captain Corelli one gets used a lot.

Looly71 · 05/06/2016 14:54

Salem. I had that reading at my wedding. I love it Smile

Charliej86 · 05/06/2016 14:56

We had 'What is a sole mate' by Emily Matthews.

If you have found a smile
that is the sweetest one you've known,
If you have heard, within a voice,
the echoes of your own,
If you have felt a touch
that stirs the longings of your heart,
And still can feel that closeness
in the moments you're apart,
If you have filled with wonder
at the way two lives can blend
To weave a perfect pattern
that is seamless, end to end,
If you believe some things in life
are simply meant to be,
Then you have found your soul mate,
your heart's own destiny.

Me624 · 05/06/2016 15:29

I love this one:

CEREMONY READINGS
Home :: Planning :: Ceremony Readings :: A Marriage

A MARRIAGE
By Michael Blumenthal

You are holding up a ceiling
with both arms. It is very heavy,
but you must hold it up, or else
it will fall down on you. Your arms
are tired, terribly tired,
and, as the day goes on, it feels
as if either your arms or the ceiling
will soon collapse.

But then,
unexpectedly,
something wonderful happens:
Someone,
a man or a woman,
walks into the room
and holds their arms up
to the ceiling beside you.

So you finally get
to take down your arms.
You feel the relief of respite,
the blood flowing back
to your fingers and arms.
And when your partner's arms tire,
you hold up your own
to relieve him again.

And it can go on like this
for many years
without the house falling.

BillSykesDog · 05/06/2016 15:38

1 Corinthians 13

If I speak in the tongues of men or of angels, but do not have love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal.

If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing.

If I give all I possess to the poor and give over my body to hardship that I may boast, but do not have love, I gain nothing.

^Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.

It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs

Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.^

It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.^

Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.

For we know in part and we prophesy in part, but when completeness comes, what is in part disappears.

When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me. For now we see only a reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.^

And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.

BillSykesDog · 05/06/2016 15:38

Italics fail!

ineedamoreadultieradult · 05/06/2016 15:46

I read 'A lovely love story' can't remember the author but it is only a short story 2-3 minutes to read aloud. It's about two dinosaurs which I thought some more traditional family members might not be that keen on but everybody loved it.

Notthebumtroll · 05/06/2016 15:54

It's Edward Monkton ineed my friend had that one too

Busybuzzybumblebee · 05/06/2016 16:02

We're having on your wedding day by anon.

Today is a day you will always remember
The greatest in anyone's life
You'll start off the day just two people in love
And end it as Husband and Wife

It's a brand new beginning the start of a journey
With moments to cherish and treasure
And although there'll be times when you both disagree
These will surely be outweighed by pleasure

You'll have heard many words of advice in the past
When the secrets of marriage were spoken
But you know that the answers lie hidden inside
Where the bond of true love lies unbroken

So live happy forever as lovers and friends
It's the dawn of a new life for you
As you stand there together with love in your eyes
From the moment you whisper 'I do'

And with luck, all your hopes, and your dreams can be real
May success find it's way to your hearts
Tomorrow can bring you the greatest of joys
But today is the day it all starts

bastedyoungturkey · 05/06/2016 16:07

I read a lovely love story too. It made people smile and weep in equal measure.

Serenity05 · 05/06/2016 16:23

We also had A Lovely Love Story and had loads of people telling us afterwards how great it was. Our other reading was 'Love' by Roy Croft and I'm also fond of Shakespeare's sonnet 116.

PotterBot · 05/06/2016 16:28

I've been looking at readings for ages. Definitely want the lovely love story. It's amazing.

MadameDePomPom · 05/06/2016 16:31

Oh the dinosaur one. Yes I've heard that a few times too!

There seem to be trends in wedding readings.

DoloresVanCartier · 05/06/2016 16:33

Pam Ayres - he never leaves the seat up. It's funny and nice

sparechange · 05/06/2016 16:35

Someone read "a lovely love story" at our wedding
Everyone loved it, especially the children present, who talked about it for the rest of the day

bombayflambe · 05/06/2016 16:42

We had three readings: second timers and wanted truisms rather than romance. They each seemed perfect for us and we couldn't choose between them:

From Three Men in a Boat by Jerome K Jerome

The first list we made out had to be discarded. It was clear that the upper reaches of the Thames would not allow of the navigation of a boat sufficiently large to take the things we had set down as indispensable; so we tore the list up, and looked at one another!

George said:

"You know we are on a wrong track altogether. We must not think of the things we could do with, but only of the things that we can't do without."

George comes out really quite sensible at times. You'd be surprised. I call that downright wisdom, not merely as regards the present case, but with reference to our trip up the river of life, generally. How many people, on that voyage, load up the boat till it is ever in danger of swamping with a store of foolish things which they think essential to the pleasure and comfort of the trip, but which are really only useless lumber.

How they pile the poor little craft mast-high with fine clothes and big houses; with useless servants, and a host of swell friends that do not care tuppence for them, and that they do not care three ha'pence for; with expensive entertainments that nobody enjoys, with formalities and fashions, with pretence and ostentation, and with - oh, heaviest, maddest lumber of all! - the dread of what will my neighbour think, with luxuries that only cloy, with pleasures that bore, with empty show that, like the criminal's iron crown of yore, makes to bleed and swoon the aching head that wears it!

It is lumber, man - all lumber! Throw it overboard. It makes the boat so heavy to pull, you nearly faint at the oars. It makes it so cumbersome and dangerous to manage, you never know a moment's freedom from anxiety and care, never gain a moment's rest for dreamy laziness - no time to watch the windy shadows skimming lightly o'er the shallows, or the glittering sunbeams flitting in and out among the ripples, or the great trees by the margin looking down at their own image, or the woods all green and golden, or the lilies white and yellow, or the sombre- waving rushes, or the sedges, or the orchids, or the blue forget-me-nots.

Throw the lumber over, man! Let your boat of life be light, packed with only what you need - a homely home and simple pleasures, one or two friends, worth the name, someone to love and someone to love you, a cat, a dog, and a pipe or two, enough to eat and enough to wear, and a little more than enough to drink; for thirst is a dangerous thing.

You will find the boat easier to pull then, and it will not be so liable to upset, and it will not matter so much if it does upset; good, plain merchandise will stand water. You will have time to think as well as to work. Time to drink in life's sunshine - time to listen to the aeolian music that the wind draws from the human heart-strings around us - time to -

I beg your pardon, really. I quite forgot.’

Maybe..... Author unknown

Maybe…we are supposed to meet the wrong people before meeting the Right one, so that when we finally meet the right person, we will know how to be grateful for that gift.

Maybe...it is true that we don't know what we have got until we lose it, but it is also true that we don't know what we have been missing until it arrives

Maybe...the happiest of people don't necessarily have the best of
everything; they just make the most of everything that comes along their way.

Maybe...the best kind of love is the kind you where you can sit on a sofa together, never say a word, and then walk away feeling like it was the best conversation you've ever had.

Maybe...you shouldn't go for looks; they can deceive. Don't go for wealth; even that fades away. Go for someone who makes you smile, because it takes only a smile to make a dark day seem bright.

Maybe...you should hope for enough happiness to make you sweet, enough trials to make you strong, enough sorrow to keep you human, and enough hope to make you happy.

Maybe Love is not about finding the perfect person; it's about learning to see an imperfect person perfectly. When you do what you can, love will do what you can't

I Rely on You by Hovis Presley

I rely on you
I rely on you
Like a Skoda needs suspension
Like the aged need a pension
Like a trampoline needs tension
Like a bungee jump needs apprehension
I rely on you

Like a camera needs a shutter
Like a gambler needs a flutter
Like a golfer needs a putter
Like a buttered scone involves some butter
I rely on you

Like an acrobat needs ice cool nerve
Like a hairpin needs a drastic curve
Like an HGV needs endless derv
Like an outside left needs a body swerve
I rely on you

Like a handyman needs pliers
Like an auctioneer needs buyers
Like a laundromat needs driers
Like The Good Life needed Richard Briers
I rely on you

Like a water vole needs water
Like a brick outhouse needs mortar
Like a lemming to the slaughter
Ryan's just Ryan without his daughter
I rely on you

BlueRaptor · 05/06/2016 16:46

Thank you so much everyone - these are beautiful!

Particularly taken by how love is like owning a dog!

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WanderingNotLost · 05/06/2016 17:17

Oh God Stark that Wendy Cope one made me well up!

honeylulu · 05/06/2016 18:31

If you have a nervous reader who'd prefer a short reading, maybe try this:

"We wish you health;
A little wealth;
A happy home with freedom;
And may you always have true friends,
But never cause to need them."

I read it to end off my best woman speech at my dear friend's wedding. Tempted to pass it off as my own but came across it in a wedding planning (author unknown).

ProseccoPoppy · 05/06/2016 21:21

Blue the falling in love is like owning a dog one was my absolute favourite (we did also have our dog at out wedding so it really worked for us but I love it anyway) plus as a bonus I was able to make my very lovely but very posh best friend say "ain't" in his very best RP Grin

Brummiegirl15 · 05/06/2016 22:41

I'm getting married this year and we are having a lovely lovely story. Beautiful reading

sdaisy26 · 05/06/2016 23:05

We had A lovely love story which went down really well - and just fitted us perfectly too - people thought we'd written it ourselves. Funny to see it mentioned a few times here as I've not heard it at another wedding yet (we've been to a lot!). We also had W.B. Yeats 'had I the heaven's embroidered cloths' which I think is just beautiful.

Also liked A Birthday by Christina Rosetti.

Have to admit I groan a little internally at Captain Corelli as it seems to be read at pretty much every wedding.

Love the scaffolding one.