A friend of mine hasn't been much of a friend lately. 6 months ago I had a breakdown. I reached out to her ( and one other friend who has been great). I was born depressed and almost suicidal she ignored my message, kept me at arms length in the months afterwards and most recently made me feel very guilty and ashamed for wanting to go out clubbing on my hen party. I didn't put pressure her to come out too but she was very passive aggressive that night and the next day.
She's also made jokey remarks and comments about my partners physical appearance (but insists they're jokes). I know this isn't malicious but I still think it's mean.
After lots of umming and ahing I plucked up the courage to write to her and ask if everything was okay between us and if I had upset her as our friendship had clearly changed. She replied with an apologetic message trying to explain why she originally ignored the messages when I . She said she was going through a difficult time and isolated herself. I would happily accept this but she threw herself into friendships with others and was very social with other friends afterwards. She's practically ignored and felt bad about that so things became more distant. She said she'd like to talk face to face but understands if I don't want her at the wedding anymore. The wedding is in a couple of months. I am happy to accept her apology and want things to remain civil between us but I don't want her there anymore. I'm deeply hurt and would like to cool this friendship out and phase her out out of self-preservation. AIBU to meet with her to talk face to face, be frank and civil but say that i would rather she didn't attend the wedding? I resent paying a lot of money on her place at the wedding when there were friends my partner and I were unable to invite due to numbers.