To be terrified

[Scaredandshaking]

I've had a letter come to my home via recorded delivery.

I know it's news I've been semi expecting but still I feel sick with the thought of what it could contain and I really, really do feel like I'm going to throw up from fright.

You will be ok and whatever the news is you will find a way to deal with it.

Right, job stuff by recorded delivery sounds like disciplinary hearing results.
People here probably have knowledge about ACAS, unions, employment tribunals.
Or if you don't need to challenge but just fucked up, there are plenty of people who've done that too and will commiserate.

I'm sure you understand why I can't go into it all, usual; I really can't. Genuinely - and that is heartfelt - I am sorry if my thread has annoyed you in some way - but I came in from a lovely day with friends and felt my mood plummet from happy and content enough to cold and shaky and reaching out to people felt a natural thing to do.

I do understand threads can be frustrating and I occasionally feel the same on here. But compromising my identity because someone is annoyed by vagueness would be silly, I hope you understand

This is like those fucking fb posts which go 'so upset', just to get "ooh, what's wrong hun?" and posts of those ilk, only for the original poster not to update.

I block the persistent offenders, haven't got the time or inclination for drama llamas

Oh be nice everyone.
OP can you name change and ask for advice in legal?

Apocalypse the OP has already NC'd for this thread.

OP - Will you be collecting the letter tomorrow? Good luck.

"What's up hun?"

"PM you"

😴

Scaredandshaking - whatever it says you will find a way to deal with it even if you don't feel like that right now. it will work out.

Right now though, frustrating though it is, there is nothing you can do about it. So pour yourself a glass of wine, put something on the TV or read a good book to distract yourself and put it all on hold for now. Get the best nights sleep you can and deal with it in the morning.

I hope the news is not as bad as you fear.

Well I hope you get good news! And some people are being big nosey meanies (imo)

Hi OP.

No solution, just loads of sympathy. I hate opening letters (or answering the phone), even when I'm 95% certain that what's inside is bog-standard - statements and the like. If it's an 'unusual' piece of post? Let's say I know what you mean by 'terrified'.

When things were really bad I once arranged to meet a friend for coffee bearing a large pile of post so that I could open with her for support. There was nothing that should have worried me.

Good luck.

It's not hard to know that the OP just wanted a bit of hand holding....

Scared remember that what you imagine is likely to be much much worse than the reality. And yes, you will a way to work it out.

What are your plans for tonight? Can you plan a nice evening at home so you can keep your mind of it?

If you've already nc then surely you can say a little bit more even if only to obtain some sort of advice. However....hope it's not as bad as you obviously think it is

Don't say if you don't want to OP
Fingers crossed that it's the news you want

The vipers nest isn't the best place for hand holding.
Good luck with whatever it is.

Yep agree it is like one of those annoying FB posts. How can I give sympathy or even empathy if for all I know it is a increase in wages or a notification of redundancy? Work for BHS by any chance?

Asking for hand holding and reassurance on AIBU on a Friday evening is not a good move IMO

With the greatest of respect I am now not the one keeping it on 'active.'

I have seen people don't feel able to support and understood and tried to move on but that's difficult if people persist in posting to say how annoying it is I posted :)

Are you bu to be terrified, scared and shaking; because you got a parcel containing job related stuff...
What stuff?? You can't say... What do you want anyone to say?

What is the point of this?

People are supportive, but expecting them to be supportive of something so vague can be very irritating and attention seeking.

I'm all for 'this has happened, what shall I do?' because other kind posters will offer advice. But a dramatic OP followed by drip feeding is just peculiar, how can it help?

With the greatest respect ( always said when no respect is actually intended) YOU posted this in the first place

People don't feel able to support you? . Wow.

I'm often this scared! I feel for you. My Dad always said nothing good ever comes 2nd class. I agree with poster who said prepare for the worst, and dream about the best outcome. If you are expecting trouble, create a meeting agenda and prepare your case. FActs and information will make you feel in a stronger position. If it's something you really want, fast forward to the future in your mind and imagine yourself with it, and you'll probably find you can probably survive without it.

good luck!

Are you a spy? Have you been found out?