I've posted here for traffic but am aware this is a relationship topic.
Ex h and I are divorced with 3 dcs. The divorce was not amicable. He had gotten into debt and this has had an adverse effect on my credit rating and caused me health problems.
As an escape route he moved in with the ow. To clarify I pushed for a divorce and paid for it all. There is no way I would ever have h back and the dcs are totally fine with this.
He quickly married the ow.
Soon everything he had done with the dcs stopped. He stopped spending time alone with them.
Our dcs had to go to her house to see him , with her there and only if all of her kids( much younger than ours) are there too.
All activities ex h used to do with them stopped.
He packed work in, looked after her young dcs full time and she has gone back to work full time.
My dcs get nothing, and I mean nothing.
At first I blamed ex h for this as he is their father.
However yesterday there was an incident which resulted in the new wife screaming in my dd1s face at dd1s place of work.
Dd1 told her that her relationship with her dad was nothing to do with new wife.
New wife then scream sat she will get dd1 the sack!
I'm sorry this is long. But what I am now wondering is whether ex h is somehow being controlled by his wife?
My dd1 said she almost felt sorry for her dad as he sat with his eyes downcast.
Initially I said he should have told his wife not to speak to dd1 like that.
But after telling a good friend what has happened she said that it sounds exactly like her step mother who controls every move her dad makes. She said that my dcs should try their best to see their dad but there is no way any of them will go to her house now.
I am so angry towards this horrible excuse for a human . Until now I blamed their dad but now I blame her.
She was screaming that my dd only works as X. Who the hell does she think she is?
Sorry it's a bit vague but I don't want to out myself.
The dcs have all said that unfortunately they know they can only see their dad with her present and that is out of the question now.
I can't help feeling that this scene was instigated by the wife to get a reaction from my dd.
Previously they hadn't seen them for a few months as he makes no effort whatsoever ever to do anything with them and my don does not like her dcs.
Of course her dcs can do no wrong and the one time my ex h stood up to her over an issue she threw him out on the streets!
Does anyone have d patience of this?
I would love for my dcs to have some (however poor) relationship with their dad.