To have cancelled treat for DC after constant arguing?

[CocktailQueen]

On holiday this week. Had booked a treat for the DC and were driving there today. On the way - only in car ten mins - they were arguing and niggling with each other. Warned them but they carried on.

I then said that if they couldn't be nice to each other in the car for ten mins then I wasn't going to take them to treat. Turned car round and came back to our holiday cottage.

Dd is 12, ds is 9. Dd can be horrible to ds, really snarky, picks him up on everything. She is lovely to everyone else and to her bf's little sister, which winds me up - why can't she be nice to her own db?

Anyway, wondering what to do with the rest of the day now...

Don't think I was being U - this has come on top of a lot of arguing and attitude etc! And I thought this might make them think twice before doing the same again in future? I hope, anyway.

But their arguing makes me so sad, that they have spoiled a day out and they don't know how lucky they are to have each other... Gah.

Kerbys, wow that must be really difficult

Oh good for you OP!

My ten year old is an arrogant, sanctimonious little toad, mostly towards his seven year old sister (who is by no means an angel but is never premeditatedly nasty)
He is then the golden child to everybody else.

I sympathise completely and I'll be taking away Camping with the scouts if he doesn't Buck up his ideas.

You're definitely NBU

Kerby that must be awful for you as their mum.

DS is an only and has still spent the last 3 days in the house because he was an absolute nightmare over the weekend.

BBQ Fri evening, whole day out Sat and a different day out Sun resulted in him screaming that he hates me because I never do anything with him

So I have shown him what doing nothing actually looks like, we have been to the shop and thats it. He is actually being pleasant again now so we may do something this weekend

What was huge treat, OP? (nosy)

Oh, Kerby, that's so sad. Can't imagine many DC would have taken you literally, though...

Toffee, don't think I said it was a 'huge' treat, but it was horse riding.

My crane, where have I said that in blame dd for everything? I don't. Ds winds her up, but she is nasty to him. He's never nasty to her.

After spending some time in their room, we had a chat then had lunch and went out for the afternoon. Kids got on great, and dd was v kind to ds. They slept in the same bed last night too! Kids...