To think that one's husband shouldn't tell you how to vote?

[RubyGates]

Just that really. My SIL was told in no uncertain terms how she should vote in the EU referendum by her husband. She was born in Britain but has non-British parents and has spent most of her adult life outside the UK, (She has since returned, married and had a daughter) and so is a bit unsure about the various issues .
Her husband's degree (taken long ago) is in a related subject so perhaps he sees himself as a bit of an expert in this sort of thing.

It wasn't a discussion about their views, or one where he directed her to various resources so that she could see why he was voting the way he was, it was an order that she should vote the way he was going to.

AIBU to think that this isn't the 19th century?

Me and Dp vote differently in most elections. We have few good natured rows but it doesn't affect us as a couple.

Not sure how I'm voting in the in/out vote. I've read both sides and listened to debates but I'm still unsure

I'm sick of people trying to tell other people who to vote for in the referendum, it's an individual vote not a group one...

People can vote for whoever they want, whether remain, leave or a spoilt vote. And they don't need to justify it either!