To think after 25 years together

[RosesandRugbyPlease]

My DH shouldn't have to be told by me what to buy for me for my birthday.

We have been together 25 years and he has never bought me a birthday present without me giving him the exact item complete with price and location of the item for him to buy for me. We only do birthday presents and not Christmas or anniversary to each other hence why this is annoying me

I've always caved in and given him the information he needs because if I don't he just buys garage flowers and chocolates his mother actually eats and not me which are crap presents with no thought.

We are yet again having the old 'what do you want me to get you' conversation and I'm struggling with not screaming at him to make a sodding decision himself politely asking him to choose something nice for me.

I've had a really long discussion with the Children explaining that I want them to think about what I may like as a gift and I'm not going to tell them anything about what I may want.

AIBU to just want him to take the children and buy me something they all think I may like?

This is why DH and I maintain Amazon wish lists.

Excited I need to know more about this "quick link" button.....

Ok so basically I need to set up an amazon wish list and only expect items off my list. I had better make it a good one then

Exactly same situation and same duration of marriage ! I have given up hoping for inspired gifts - he is generous but is happiest when I give not only the gift details but exact directions in a shop. Or a list of links on Amazon - he will either pick the most expensive or get all three so I have to be careful there. Or the name of somewhere to purchase a gift card. He did buy a really lovely pashmina once, without any help, but then used that as a default until I could have opened my own shop. I am really unaquisative and am genuinely pleased with my daughters' simple room fragrance or book choices so I do get some surprises at Xmas etc.

Ok so basically I need to set up an amazon wish list and only expect items off my list. I had better make it a good one then

Sounds sensible. Do you have any reason to think your husband wouldn't buy you something 'good'?