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To not want to eat all our sweets *immediately*

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Oovavu · 31/05/2016 09:46

We're off on a day trip on the train. DH bought two big bags of sweets for the journey - fair enough. We don't have sweets in the house much at all and it's a bit of a novelty.

But the minute we pulled out of the station - at TEN PAST NINE - he opens the sweets and he and the kids start eating them like they've been on rations for 10 years.
I said I thought it was a bit early but he said 'they were for the journey and this is now the journey' like he's a year 7 on a trip to the zoo with no parents watching.

Partly I'm laughing as it's so ridiculous and partly I'm annoyed as he can't see my point. And partly I feel Victorian and disapproving with a mouth like a cat's bottom.

Is there a 'too early' to eat sweets (apart from Christmas Day when anything goes I guess?)
I promise I won't stress about this all day btw - was just interested in other people's Rules of Sweets. Our kids are 10 & 14. DH is old enough to know better.

OP posts:
mummytohpm · 31/05/2016 10:44

I'm like your DH sorry!

I like other posters have the need to stuff my face with sweets on any long journeys. Grin

Because you don't have sweets in the house it is a novelty and I don't see the issue to be honest! If they were eating sweets for breakfast every day that would be different...

You're talking about your DH like he's one of the kids.... Presumably if he wants more sweets on the way back.. He can go and buy some?!

If my Oh acted towards me like you're acting towards your DH I would be mightily pissed off and tell him to stop being such a miserable git!!

Oldraver · 31/05/2016 10:44

What is your point ? Of course they are going to guzzle them like they have been on ration ...as they have.

Just chill, but make sure they save some for you

EveryoneElsie · 31/05/2016 10:45

You probably grew up eating sweets and you're ok.
Let them have sweets on the return journey. Sweets wont give them tooth decay if they clean their teeth, and they wont make them fat. Theres no good reason for making a big deal about food rules.

IToldYouIWasFreaky · 31/05/2016 10:52

Stuffing your face with sweets at 9am every day would not be great, obviously but every once in a while...why not?!

You asked about sweet rules. DS is 8 and any sweets he gets (party bags, presents, pockey money etc) go on the cabinet in the dining room and he's usually allowed a little something most days after dinner. I rarely buy him sweets as there seems to be a constant stream coming into the house anyway...He chooses what/how much to have and is sensible about this. He's also very good at offering me something at the same time (only the two of us in the house) For days out/cinema trips etc I'll encourage him to take a few things out with us, or I might buy a bag to share if stocks are running low.
He was at Cub Camp this weekend with pocket money and access to a tuck shop and sweets were given out as prizes so I suspect he had a shitload of sugar...he came home with a blue mouth anyway! But it's not every weekend and if he eats too much and makes himself feel sick, hopefully he'll limit himself next time (though I am still learning that lesson at 39...Hmm)

abigamarone · 31/05/2016 10:58

I would have taken my share out at the start and when they've finished, make a point of unwrapping them very loudly for the remainder of the journey. Because I'm nice like that.

honeyrider · 31/05/2016 11:04

Gosh OP you sure know how to suck any joy out of the day out. Your DH is an adult so he's entitled to make his own decisions about what he eats on a day out. Are you always so controlling?

Gide · 31/05/2016 11:07

Get separate packs of stuff per person, simple solution.

Wanderingwondering · 31/05/2016 11:18

Oh I'm like you but I'm aware I'm a joyless old misery when it comes to things like this

fortifiedwithtea · 31/05/2016 11:23

I'm on team DH too.

Thank you for this thread OP. I'm on a train journey of nearly 4 hours tomorrow with DD2. I hadn't thought of taking sweets but now you've said it, I really want to.

MothertotheLordsofmisrule · 31/05/2016 11:33

Be careful op.
You don't want end up like the mummy (who wasn't present on this families bike ride) yesterday who was painted in a very poor light by her daughter.
"Thank you daddy for the ice cream, mummy wouldn't bought us one. You're the best daddy ever"

dowhatnow · 31/05/2016 13:03

I can't stand it at Xmas with the in laws. A box of chocs are opened and passed round then put on the side and passed round again 20 minutes later and so on. I've got the taste of chocolate in my mouth after the first one. I want more instantly. It's torture waiting for the next one.

I'd rather eat my ration all in one go, than eek them out.
Neither of those camps are wrong. They are just different.

PPie10 · 31/05/2016 13:06

Well if you don't have sweets in the house can you see why they behaved like they are rationed? Hmm
What's wrong with having something in moderation ? No wonder some people and kids go crazy when they do see it.

Pipbin · 31/05/2016 13:12

So long as the DC understand that this is a one off treat for special occasions only then I don't see the problem.

sharknad0 · 31/05/2016 13:16

I don't have any sweets in my house, or squash or anything like that.
I am not against sugar, we have jam, that kids don't like, honey and nutella.

My nephews always have a big glass jar of sweet in the house, and they eat a few every day.

Rations or not, ALL the kids always zoom on the sweets like locusts when we have a party, and stuff their mouth with them. So no, not having sweets at home doesn't make any difference whatsoever on their behaviour.

Once in awhile, there's nothing wrong with treats in the morning. I have had a big steak for breakfast because I was hungry, followed by a banana for lunch and diner. Why would that be bad?

swelchphr · 31/05/2016 13:33

So what? When they're gone, they're gone. (Although, I wouldn't have opened them so early, but I have a massive sweet tooth & once they were opened, I would have taken some too.)

MLGs · 31/05/2016 15:10

I think it's fine to start eating them if he wants. But agree you could.siphon off your share so there's some left when you fancy them.

Brummiegirl15 · 31/05/2016 23:26

I'm on team DH too I'm afraid, it's a bit of fun

However when I was younger, sweets, biscuits, pop etc weren't rationed so to speak - it was "we aren't made of money, so once it's gone, it's gone" and we were able to enjoy treats.

So it means now that if we have a packet of biscuits in the house I can eat one and then be satisfied.

DP (and actually many of my friends) weren't allowed treats very often so now when we have nice stuff in the house, DP cannot help himself. He will demolish the entire pack or bag - just because it's there, and he can

So the rationing / restriction can often backfire

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